There is this…um…ridiculous new movement taking the world by storm. It’s called BanBossy and what it is basically for is, well…to do away with using the term ‘bossy’ when describing girls. Or women.
If you’re shrugging your shoulders trying to understand the point, know that it’s my same reaction.
See, I’m of the mindset where, if you don’t like a word, you just don’t use it. And to try to ban a word like BOSSY? It’s a freaking waste of time. How about setting up a DOT COM to ban hate words like the N word. Or how about the awful K word used for us Jewish people. Those I would understand.
But to try to BOSS us into not calling girls BOSSY anymore? Don’t even. Because…well, that’s not leadership, ladies. That’s flat out bossy. Asserting your opinion, based on the fact that a word bothers you, into the minds of others…
I refuse to drink your Kool Aid.
I see absolutely NOTHING wrong with being called “bossy”. And trust me, I’ve been called that a few times in my life. Did it hold me back in life?
The way I see it is…if someone is going to be negatively affected by one word, then that person will be negatively affected by many words.
Teach your kids to be strong.
Teach your children to be hard working and goal oriented.
Teach your kids that there are always going to be obstacles to overcome.
And not just made up obstacles like the word BOSSY, for God’s sake.
If people making a big deal out of little things just stopped making a big deal out of little things then maybe the word BOSSY wouldn’t be a big deal? If that made any sense.
My kids…omg, they are so freaking bossy. Both my girls AND my boys.
So is my husband.
And I don’t see a single thing wrong with it.
I’m so incredibly tired of these kinds of movements.
You have that kind of online and real life power, use it for good. Not, well…silly. Because yeah, trying to BAN BOSSY is silly.
I’m not going to stop using the word just because someone else thinks it holds so many negative connotations.
Well, that word in particular.
I totally understand the premise of this movement, I do. Empowering our daughters to be leaders.
Do you really, honestly mean to tell me that if none of us had been called Bossy in our lives, then we would have become bigger and better than we are now?
I can’t imagine that is even a remote possibility.
I am who I am because of the path I chose. Not because someone in my past called me bossy.
My kids will go on to become whatever it is they choose to become and their end result will have nothing to do with the fact that they were, maybe once or twice (or more) in their lives told they were bossy.
I guarantee that those that started this movement were called BOSSY in their lives. Because clearly, that is what they are.
And they made it to the top.
And now, they look down on a word that most likely precisely describes them.
So, if my daughters can be as bossy as those bossy leaders, then I’m all for it.
Bossy DOES equal leadership, diplomacy and the ability to work successfully with others. Because hey, you’re in charge, taking the lead.
If someone wants to call ME bossy?
I’ll tell them THANK YOU.
Maybe the word they meant, however…was BITCHY. Because BOSSY? Yeah, I’ll take it as I’m climbing the ladder.
Paul O'Flaherty says
Not quite sure I agree with this. I would say that bossy CAN equal leadership, but all too often they are not synonymous.
Great post though 😀
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