Ignorance Is Bliss

I’m in charge of the Creative Writing discussion over on Collective Bias. I’m going to be presenting a weekly prompt for anyone to join in on. Fun! Without creative writing skills, blog posts can be boring…even the review blogs! So, what better way to become a better writer than to practice, practice, practice.

For our first prompt, I chose to have anyone interested write about someone who is pretending to be someone or something he or she is not. It can be a short story, a poem, essay form…whatever. And, that can be taken in many different ways. It will be fun to read the entries. If anyone else is interested in writing, leave your link in the comment section so we can check it out!

I’m doing a short story…of course.
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She lay in bed gently rubbing her belly. The baby responded by kicking back. She smiled into the darkness.

She was happy.

Life was exactly how she imagined it would be. Fancy cars, big diamonds, designer clothing, a handsome and doting husband. She knew she was envied and that pleased her. The geeky girl that cleaned up well.

Her husband was snoring softly. She couldn’t sleep, her mind was racing. She was running a list in her mind of all the things still needed to be purchased for the arrival of their baby. Their daughter.

Her thoughts turned to this evening and she sighed contentedly. Their three year anniversary. A delicious dinner at a 5-star restaurant with beautiful diamond watches exchanged followed by lovemaking that was as heated as it could be considering her due date was only three weeks away.

They were so in love. She thought that anyone who noticed them could see it, they emanated it. Their auras even intertwined. They were one.

She couldn’t believe her luck. He was the perfect man and he loved her. HER. The dorky, awkward, gangly girl who stuttered over her own words and tripped over her own feet.

High school was traumatic. College was worse. But then she got her first real job as a nurse in the hospital. She began to slowly come out of her shell and make friends. Friends who saw the potential in her looks and took her shopping and got her make up done.

She emerged from her chrysalis a smoking hot butterfly.

Soon, every single doctor…and not so single…pursued her. Asking her out or just trying to tap that.

She wore confidence like a mink stole. She was it and she knew it.

Then, a new doctor began working in the ER. He noticed her, just like every other doctor did.

This time, she paid attention.

Body fluids were exchanged before phone numbers.

Eventually, they began going to dinner, coffee, bowling…BEFORE ending up rolling around in the bed, on the floor, in the car. Conversations were intense. She had never had so much in common with another person, despite the fact that he listened more than he spoke. He kept a lot inside, and she was fine with that. She could talk enough for the both of them. But, they agreed on the important things and to her, that was what really mattered.

6 months later, they were engaged.

Someone wonderful loved her and wanted to marry her. She said yes. And they ran off to Vegas.

Now here they were. Married three wonderful, happy years. With many more to come.

Everyone liked her husband. Except her mother, who thought there was “something” about him. She didn’t want to hear about it from her mom, who had been divorced and remarried more times than she remembered. If there was “something” about anyone, it was her mom.

She still couldn’t sleep so she decided to check her email. Grabbing her laptop from next to her bed, she placed it on top of her tummy table.

Typical spam and chain emails were the bulk of what was waiting for her in her inbox. An unfamiliar email address from the hospital they worked at was there with IMPORTANT, PLEASE READ in the RE: line.

So, she did.

It said:

Dear Ellie,
Click on this link. (link) I think you will find this very interesting.
Oh, and happy anniversary.

Lila Steward

How sweet, she thought and she clicked on the link.

It took a minute for the scene on her screen to register. For her eyes to focus.

She watched in horror, the whole five minute film of her husband having sex with two women. She watched as one woman was giving her husband a blow job while the other one was gyrating on his face. On the desk in his office that they had picked out together.

She felt sick. The baby did a somersault in response.

She noticed other videos by the same account holder and she clicked on them.

They were all of her husband. Having sex with other women. The videos were all dated over the course of the past year. And she watched all of them. Feeling more nauseous the longer she watched.

Why the hell was she doing this to herself? Watching this train wreck.

No, she was obviously the train wreck.

She slammed the top down on the laptop and rolled over onto her side. Tears silently falling, her pillow growing wet.

She cried for how ignorant her husband must think she is.

She mourned the loss of the wonderful life she thought she had.

She sobbed because her mother really was right.

And then, she sat up. Determined. She opened her computer. And she erased the email.

She would continue living this life, this facade. She would never let her husband know what she had found out. She would continue letting him believe her ignorance.

For the sake of her unborn daughter.

For the sake of the geeky girl she once was.

A Dark Post.

I don’t want to be dark and depressing.

But that is where I am right now.

I’m questioning why. And if. And how.

Angry.

Resentful.

Shocked.

At everything life is throwing at us.

I’m playing “C’mon Get Happy” in my head, over and over. I’m really trying to shake this.

It’s not working right now.

I can’t stand feeling like a businessman stumbling out of Happy Hour.

Out of control.

I have no control over anything in my life.

Not a fricking thing.

Time.

My kids.

Money.

My house.

My life.

There is nothing.

I feel useless.

And insignificant.

And completely unnecessary.

I’m a practical joke.

I can’t stand this feeling.

This anxiety.

This sadness.

I’m not sure what to do with it. It’s familiar but I only knew it from a distance before.

It’s arms are wrapped tightly around me, talons piercing.

I can barely catch my breath.

I can barely keep the tears from welling up.

I can barely keep from screaming.

Just barely.

I want to claw, punch, kick and scream WHY! WHY!! WHY??

But I swallow it down with a sip of coffee.

I’m spoiled.

Petulant.

Wanting more from MY life than it seems to want to give to me. And I don’t know how to change it.

Wanting more from someone that someone is willing to do.

Wanting.

Sick of bad decisions.

Tired of actions taken before thoughts.

Sick of nothing being done.

TIRED.

Worried.

Overwhelmed.

In a dark place.

Ovarian Cancer Awareness

September is Ovarian Cancer Awareness month.

As many of you know, I lost a friend of mine to this horrible and violent predator back in July, after a courageous 5 year battle. Because that’s what it is when cancer attacks…a battle.

Last year, Lori guest posted on my blog and in honor of her memory and of Ovarian Cancer Awareness, I’d like to repost in its entirety…

Lori…this is for you.

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a big hello to all of “melissas” readers!

ok….first of all….ive known “melissa” since junior high or high school…..and she was MISSY back then. and to me…she still is! yeah…we met when we were in a gym class together. i dont think you could have found two more people as “gym defective” as us. we haaaated gym! i cant believe i didnt fail. either way…..we made it thru. we even paired up to do a required aerobic routine. im sure we sucked, but im also fairly certain that we at least looked cute in our 80′s leg warmers/leotard/headband gear. as another side note….i was the “good girl” to missys “bad girl”, and i was the only friend that her parents liked her to go out with. they were smart. i was pretty goody-goody. (but for the record…i wasnt boring!)

anyway….i feel like a pseudo-celeb; in having the honor to be a guest on missys blog! and i wasnt a cordial guest either. i actually invited myself. but in all seriousness….im completely blown away by missys blog, and her writitng skills. not only does she have the most perfect skin in the world, but shes got such a talent when it comes to expressing her thoughts. so yes…i really DO feel it is an honor to be here. i have a blog too. it’s called lori-ments
check it out! tho i do have to admit…im kind of a “blog idiot”. i have NO clue what missy is talking about with all of the politics, and small fish vs big fish bloggers, etc. all i know…is that i write…and i really dont care if anyone even reads it. except for this post. because what i have to say is important, and affects the same genre of people who read missys blog. so here it goes.

september is ovarian cancer awareness month. i have stage 4 ovarian cancer. and the reason why my story is important; is because in a lot of ways….im the case of someone who isnt at risk for this, and at the same time; i absolutely am.

i was 36 when i was diagnosed. not the age when most people get ovarian cancer. i was also pregnant. and with all of the ultrasounds….cancer never showed up. after i had my beautiful baby boy….i knew something wrong. i felt a weird pressure low in my abdomen. and when i would breathe in…i felt a pressure in my ribs. i demanded urinary infection tests. i asked for a pap smear. i had an ultrasound. i was told, that basically i just had a baby, and of course i have pressures. but i knew. i cant tell you exactly how i knew…but i just did. i specifically remember saying to my mom, “i know they tell me this is normal…but im telling you…..something is wrong!” i dont blame my doctor. he did every test i asked for. his logic made sense. i did just have an 8 1/2 pound baby. it does take a toll on the body. he had no reason to suspect cancer. until the pap smear came back and it was positive. still…ovarian cancer wasnt a suspicion. statistics show that ovarian cancer doesnt show up on pap smears. its usually cervical which shows up on paps. its usually pre-cancerous, and its usually very treatable if caught early. i had a cat scan. it came back clear. everyone was a little baffled. there is a simple blood test called a ca-125. if its elevated, it could be a sign of cancer. normal is 35 and under. mine was 350. i went in for surgery, and they found cancer spread all over. i was debulked, with the majority of the cancer being in my diaphragm. that is what was causing the pressure when i breathed in deeply. needless to say…when i woke up from the very long surgery….i was in shock. my family was in shock. we were all devastated. and i had an 8 week old baby waiting for his mommie at home.

with all of the reasons to believe i wasnt a candidate for cancer, there was one really good reason why i was. heredity! i always knew my family background of cancer; as many of my relatives succumbed to the disease. my aunt was only 30 when she lost her fight with breast cancer. knowing this history, i was very proactive in my health care. i fought with doctors and health insurance companies to get mammograms starting at age 30. they didnt see the need for this until i was 40. instead of being praised for being aggressive with my desire to stay healthy; i was berated. i still insisted on it tho. and i point this out, because YOU should be your own advocate for YOUR health, and not rely on doctors and insurance companies alone. regardless of the fancy degrees…they DO NOT know everything! trust YOUR instincts! and please….dont even get me started on the insurance companies!!!!

i didnt know about this until after the after the whole ordeal; but there is a certain genetic mutation which puts a person at a higher risk of breast and/or ovarian cancer. its called the BRCA mutation. ashkenazi jews are especially at risk, tho i know many non-jews who have the gene too. this mutation puts women at risk of getting breast cancer by the age of 70; up to 87%, and the risk of ovarian cancer up to 44%. i tested positive for the BRCA1 mutation. we were so happy when my mother tested negative, as it affects women more than men. but it DOES affect men, and lo and behold….just a few months ago; my father was diagnosed with a rare cancer; most likely due to his BRCA1+ status. i do not suggest that everybody panic and run out to get genetic testing tomorrow…BUT…i DO want you to be AWARE of it and have knowledge about it. not to sound cliche…but knowledge truly IS power.

its 4 1/2 years later, and im still in treatment. ive been in some sort of treatment since the beginning; but i dont complain. medicine is changing DAILY. and because of my BRCA+ status, there are different drugs to use, and there are more on the way. im here! i still have a long road ahead of me, but i intend on continuing down that road. it hasnt always been easy. at the same time, ive been fortunate to be ale to live a normal life. my family is amazing. my husband is literally my anchor. my friends give me the utmost support. and my son, who is the absolute center of my whole being…. is now 4 1/2. i wasnt sure id be around to watch him crawl…let alone all of the joyous things we have since shared. of course its not enough. i have a lot more i need to experience with him!

i feel that it is my duty to educate women about this topic. therefore, i am including this info. please take the time to read it.

any friend of missys is a friend of mine. therefore…i end this post by telling you, that as my “friend”, i wish you all happiness, love and health!

September is
National Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month

The color of ovarian cancer is teal.
Though it has been called the “silent cancer”, it really isn’t, being as there are a number of symptoms. many times, the symptoms are vague enough to be misdiagnosed, as there are MANY reasons why a woman can have any of these symptoms.

The following are the symptoms:
Bloating
Pelvic or abdominal pain
Difficulty eating or feeling full quickly
Urinary symptoms (urgency or frequency)

Additional symptoms may include fatigue, indigestion, back pain, pain with intercourse, constipation or diarrhea and menstrual irregularities, although these symptoms are found equally in women without the disease.

See your doctor, preferably a gynecologist, if you have these symptoms almost daily for more than a few weeks. Experts suggest a combination pelvic/rectal exam, a transvaginal ultrasound and a CA-125 blood test.

The Risks
Women OF ANY age are at risk
increasing age raises risk
personal or family history of breast, colon, or ovarian cancer
Never been pregnant or given birth

The Facts
Occurs in 1 in 69 women
Early detection improves survival rates
There is no test. A Pap smear ONLY detects cervical cancer.
Causes symptoms even in early stages

According to the American Cancer Society, 22,000 women will be diagnosed in the next year, and 15,000 of them will die. That statistic has not changed in 30 years since the American Cancer Society declared war on cancer.
This is why it is so very important to reach as many women as we can to educate them and make them aware of this deadly disease.

for more info: the website of the Ovarian Cancer National Alliance
www.ovariancancer.org

Free To Be You And Me: My Thoughts On Gay Marriage

Forget all the governmental and religious mumbo jumbo. Because really? I’m really vague on why they should factor in on this particular equation anyways. It makes not one iota of sense to me.

My whole young life, I was around gay people. My parents were heavily into antique collecting…so there goes the stereotype about the antique business being saturated by homosexuals…it’s not. But, antiques make gay people happy the same as it makes straight people happy. I don’t know, it’s pretty stuff. Why not?

Some of my parents good friends were couples that consisted of two men. To me, it was perfectly normal, acceptable and honestly, I didn’t think twice about it.

Silly me, I just always assumed they were married. I never, EVER…until recently even, realized that they weren’t because they were NOT ALLOWED TO BE.

WHAT? Not be ALLOWED to get married?

Two people love each other. They decide they want to spend their lives together, fight together, go to bed and hold hands and talk for hours together, somehow have children together, travel…do things that married couples do…

Then who the heck cares if the couple consists of two men, two women, two different races…etc.

How is that a church issue? Or a state issue? I’d say that both entities have other BIGGER issues to worry about then who is having sex with whom.

It’s about love. And being HUMAN.

This whole bit about insurance, benefits and ENTITLEMENTS…

What should there be any difference between my marriage and marriage between two of the same sex?

Marriage is marriage.

IT MAKES NO SENSE.

Two people who love each other are two people who love each other.

Really? Why does anyone think it’s their right to impose their simple-minded fear of something that, from the outside, looks different…on everyone else?

They shouldn’t.

If you don’t like it, don’t hang around it.

It’s as simple as that.

Gotta Love Them There Neighbors In This Here Neighborhood.

Dear Anonymous Person who put this letter in our mailbox:

Because you don’t approve of a little strip of grass on our side yard looking like this:

And our side yard looks like that (which is relatively neat considering I always have a ton of kids, including ones from the neighborhood, that play there)…

Because our backyard has a pool and there is nowhere to put that playhouse, teeter totter or ride on toys.

We didn’t put all those kids toys in our front yard because we thought it would look trailer trashy but, if it would please you more…we’ll totally do that for you. There it would be more spread out and our son and his friends could run around. Would that be more suitable for how you feel our neighborhood should look?

I have a couple of favorite parts about this…

1. There are houses in our neighborhood that are rundown, shingles off the roof, shutters in shambles, driveways crumbling, grass overgrown…

And our house…not bad, I tell ya. OK fine. I didn’t weed that much or plant flowers this summer. The weeping willow needs to be cut down but? With the lowest estimate being too high and our pay cut and everything…feel free to cut it down yourself.

2. Hello, passive-aggressive anonymous person. Mind your own business. Go cut your lawn with your cuticle scissors and paint your house standard white. Close your eyes when you drive by my house. Don’t look out whichever offending window faces our yard, we wouldn’t want your eyes to burn and your brain to explode.

When our son doesn’t use the toy house, cars and whatever else is over there, we will be sure to dispose of it accordingly. Or donate it to someone else to adorn outside of their home with. For their children. To play on.

As for our brown grass…it’s that here drought we’ve been a’havin’ lately. Look around that there subdivision.

Thank you for your concern.

Now, if you’ll excuse me. I’m going to go back to doing something really important like cleaning the INSIDE of my house and getting stuff ready for when my kids go back to school.

Signed,
The Neighborhood Trailer Trash Momma

P.S…you might want to use different paper next time, you kind of narrowed the anonymity down a bit.

Sibling Relationships

My oldest son was 15 months old when I found out I was pregnant. I was thrilled but extremely guilt-ridden. I couldn’t imagine ever loving another child the way I loved him. He was the love of my life. I felt I was betraying both my unborn daughter and my first born child. Yet, I was excited at the prospect of having another child and giving my son a sibling. A playmate.

As my pregnancy progressed and he got a little older, my son began to understand what it meant when I would tell him there was a baby in my tummy. He began to grow excited and claimed the baby as his own.

He loved to place his hand on my moving tummy and plant kisses on my belly. He would talk into my belly button, figuring that, not only could she hear him but, understand his toddler babble as well.

He already loved her, sight unseen. Touch untouched. He looked so forward to her birth and would ask, all the time, when she was coming.

Finally, she was born.

My son was ecstatic.

He had his baby sister and once she came home, he was very protective of her and constantly around and hovering.

It was amazing.

It was the most beautiful thing to watch develop, the relationship between brother and sister, my children.

I never expected it. It wasn’t anything I ever thought about when planning to have children. I thought of full time playmates, not best friends who had inside jokes and secrets.

It has been a remarkable thing to be a part of. To watch. My children.

To this day, they are best friends and worst enemies. They love each other deeply and hate just as intensely. And WOW. They fight…a lot.

I love the fact that they are close, like my sister and myself. And I hope their relationship always stays this way.

They are mine. Without a doubt.

But they will always have each other.

Complaint Department Closed Until Someone Shows Up Who Gives A Damn

You have a puppy that you gave up because it was too much responsibility. But you try to push the blame on others.

You still see it, but most of the time, you can’t wait for your visit to be over so you can return it to its new owner. You can’t back your car out of the driveway fast enough and put enough distance between you and that puppy.

The check in calls, in-between visits, are few and far between.

Ironically, you are the first person to find fault with how puppy is being taken care of.

Yet, you don’t do anything except complain. On occasion. In the form of emails.

You want your complaints to be taken seriously?

Seriously?

I don’t think so.

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