There has been an outbreak of ‘advice’ articles flowing through all my timelines lately (and contrary to the title of this post, this isn’t one of them). Things we are doing wrong as parents, things we are wearing that we shouldn’t be, things we are doing wrong as part of the human race. I know the advice in these articles are meant to be helpful but they aren’t. They are coming across as judgmental.
I’m here to beg you to stop. Stop writing these articles. Please. Stop telling us what to do and how to do it. What to wear. What to eat. What to feed our children. How to treat our husbands. How to live.
I know, sound advice would be to just not read these articles. Easier said than done. Especially in the world of social platforms and link sharing. I click links.
And then I get sort of sad. Not like devastatingly sad. Just kind of.
As women, we need to just accept other women. Stop the judging.
We, as a group, are our own worst enemy.
I don’t care if you wear capris or short shorts.
High waist, low low waist…you’re good.
I could care less if you wear micro mini shorts or maxi dresses.
You want to wear a bikini or be covered head to toe, rock it!
I don’t care if you let your kids sit in front of the television all day or if you have them super-structured.
Non-GMO/Organic or not, who cares?
I appreciate you if you’re loud and outspoken or if you only speak when you have something to say.
Here’s my advice…
We are all individuals who dance to our own drummers. Or orchestra. Or rock band. Or whatever. Enjoy your music!
Be yourself. Be who you are and don’t think twice about it.
As long as you’re not hurting anyone, do what you want to do.
Live life on YOUR terms, we only have one chance at this gig.
Don’t ever be someone else’s version of you.
We are NOT one size fits all!
Eat what you want.
Exercise however you see fit.
Raise your kids.
If you’re happy and your family is thriving, that’s all that counts.
JUST BE TRUE TO YOU!!!
I wouldn’t want you any other way. And I’ll bet the people that matter would feel the same.
The ‘helpful’ advice in the articles do nothing more than divide us as women.
Who are we to judge other women? Other humans.
Or maybe it’s easier than taking a really hard look at ourselves?
I read those articles and I’m guilty of all the fashion/parenting/partnering faux-pas that are written about.
I don’t care. I’m not changing who I am because someone I probably haven’t even met thinks I should. Heck, I’m not changing who I am for anyone.
I read those articles and yes, I repost them onto my Facebook page just to see what my online friends think. It usually brings up interesting conversation and friendly debate. Okay, not always friendly. Because when we feel like we are being judged, our knee-jerk reaction, sometimes, is to argue.
I don’t want to feel like I’m being judged and I don’t want my friends to ever feel like I am judging them.
So why don’t we start steering away from what not to do, things you’re doing wrong, what you should be doing type articles. And maybe, just maybe, focus on other things? Things that really matter. Because what we are wearing, what we are choosing to eat, what our relationships are like…that’s for us to decide.
PS…I’m not judging, I’m merely stating how I feel.