It’s taken me two weeks to figure out how I wanted to write about this.
But, it’s been 12 years in the making.
I’ll start from two weeks ago.
I listen to a local radio show every morning on 96.3 FM.
They entertain me on my drive to work.
Crack me up.
Except for that time two weeks ago.
They were discussing Simon Cowell, his baby momma and her divorce.
Long story short…
Her kid isn’t allowed to call anyone other than his birth parents “Mom” or “Dad”.
That’s fine, I get it.
It doesn’t work for everyone.
But, then Blaine went on to say he agreed, kids just shouldn’t call their step parents a parental name.
He thinks it’s wrong on so many levels.
There was more but it’s already two weeks ago and I don’t remember what happened yesterday…
PISSED ME OFF.
You know why?
My daughter. That’s why.
When I married my husband, she was 4.
She’s been calling him Daddy since she was practically a baby.
She calls her real dad Daddy and Dad, too.
Confuses me all the time.
I never know who she’s talking about.
My daughter calls both men in her life Dad because that’s how she feels about them.
Both of them have filled a fatherly role and she loves them equally.
She’s so lucky.
She has TWO DADS.
Both her dads have secure places in her heart.
And, on the most part, aside from typical teenageritis, she is one of the most well-adjusted kids I’ve ever met.
She’s also one of the most spoiled kids, too.
Because both her dads are wound around her fingers.
She knows what she’s doing, that girl!
Sure, at first I was slightly worried about how her bio-Dad would feel.
But, he gets it.
He’s experienced the relationship my daughter has with her stepdad…her Daddy.
He also has his own equally important relationship with her.
There is not one ounce of jealousy because she shows them each how much she loves them.
And hates them.
She’s a teenaged girl.
So, to Blaine…while I appreciate opinions, carefully state them please.
Because calling a step parent by a parental name CAN work.
It DOES work.
What’s in a name, anyway?
P.S…I’ve forgiven Blaine though. I just can’t quit that show, they make me laugh SO HARD every single morning.
They make me laugh too!!
Tara R. says
I think it is very hard for someone who isn’t part of a blended family to understand the dynamic that develops between “steps.” My parents divorced and remarried when I was in my late teens, so it’s a little different for me. My kids don’t differentiate between my step-parents and my bio parents. They are grandpa and mammaw… period.
(BTW… at my wedding, my dad walked me down the aisle, and my step-dad officiated.)
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