2 weeks or so before our wedding, my husbands ex-wife decided…for whatever her reasons…to sign full custody of their two children over to my husband. Yes, I’ve written about it here on my blog, many times before, so many of you already know this little tidbit of information. But, it changed the course of our lives. I wasn’t expecting to go from full-time mom of 2 to full-time mom of 4. And, I don’t think any of the kids were expecting something like this to happen. Ours is a happy ending, as I’m sure many are. Thankfully.
We always hear stories of dads leaving. And, many of us think “what an ass” and compartmentalize it because…dads seem to leave more often. But, when a mom leaves…whether permanently out of lives or like our story, signs over custody but sees the kids when she wants to, it’s always a bit more shocking. Because moms don’t leave. I mean, how could they? They carried these children within their bodies, how could they just walk away from them? It horrifies us. (UPDATE) I didn’t mean for that statement to offend and sound judgmental, it wasn’t my intention. I want to add…it’s time to change the stigma attached to moms leaving. I’m not talking about the dead-beat mom, I’m talking about moms who felt they were doing the right thing by having the father raise the children. Moms who still see their kids all the time, who are active participants in the child’s life but they just don’t live together the majority of the time. Or, perhaps moms who felt that their presence in their child’s life wasn’t best for them so they opted to not see them. Whatever the reason, I would be honored if you shared your story with me.
The other evening, when I was taking a shower…because many things occur to me in the shower…I decided I want to put together a book of real life stories. Stories shared by others. Women who left their children, for whatever reason. Stories from grown children who were left by their moms. And stories of those who were left to raise the kids, like dads and stepmoms.
This book will be essays, short stories, poems and memoirs from people all over the world. I hope.
So, I need your help, please.
If you know of anyone who fits the description above or if you are someone who happens to fit into that description, I am in need of your stories.
They can be anonymous or include a bio with all your contact information, I don’t care.
This book is going to be a judgement free zone for those of us who need to tell our tale.
I’m looking for about 100 stories, they can be as long as you need them to be, they’ll be edited, I’m sure. I know mine will have to be because GOD KNOWS I can’t punctuate to save my life.
I’m not sure which route I’ll take yet, traditional or self-publishing. I mean, great if it gets picked up by an agent, once I have a proposal written and some chapters done…
Please, my friends, I need your help to get this book done. I need your stories!
If you’re interested, please shoot me an email letting me know! melissabrodsky at sbcglobal dot net