The first time I went was 2009, I was one of those involved in the private party invite search.
I couldn’t stand it though. The hurt feelings. The begging. The ass-kissing.
So in 2010, along with Lauren and Melysa, I founded BarHer. The ultimate ANTI-private party. A party that no one would have to beg for an invite to.
We opened it with around 80 invites, leaving over 100 people on the wait list. But, because it was an anti-private party, we opened it to everyone. Screw the wait list.
This year, BarHer is back only, we are BanShe Party, the ultimate traveling party FOR bloggers BY bloggers. This time, I brought on Mary, Christina and Tracy. It’s going to be awesome. No, really. Awesome.
In the meantime, I just want to share some thoughts about BlogHer for a moment.
Relax. It’s a conference, not a red carpet, star-studded event.
These private parties? Who cares. Seriously. All they do is take away precious time that could be spent hanging out with your friends. Also, just because you didn’t get invited to one doesn’t diminish your place in the Blogdom. Your words are worthwhile and don’t let these stupid parties make you feel they aren’t.
After spending a fortune on new clothes, back in 2009, I realized how stupid it is to buy an entire new wardrobe for a CONFERENCE. I’ve been to a few other blogger conferences since my first BlogHer experience and let me tell you, I’ve NEVER dressed up at any other conference. It’s so ridiculous. This year, I’m bringing what I have. Unless, of course, I lose more weight. Don’t do it, don’t spend money on clothes. Honestly, we haven’t seen any of your wardrobe anyways. It’s ALL brand new to us!
Don’t run like a crazed lunatic, you’ll miss the true fun. The people, the social part.
SWAG wars. 2009, women were fighting over SWAG. It was the most disgusting display I had ever seen. Honestly, most of the stuff you get, you probably wouldn’t even buy if you saw it in the store. Sorry but it’s the truth. Sure, you get some cool things but, on the most part? No. So, no fighting ladies. Unless you want to end up in a ton of blog posts with a stigma attached to you. If that’s your M.O then go for it.
Ladies…stop begging. PLEASE. I’m actually BEGGING YOU. Stop it. Would you beg people in your neighborhood to invite you to their private shindig? Would you beg a restaurant to give you an invite? Would you BEG EVER?
Then don’t do it for these private parties. They don’t deserve you doing something you wouldn’t do on an average day.
Also, I promise you, you won’t have to beg for BanShe invites. Somehow, someway, we will accommodate everyone. Because THAT is the whole point of this party.
So, go to BlogHer. Get as much of the experience as you can. Rest when you need to rest. Learn what you want to learn. Meet who you want to meet. Make it YOUR OWN conference experience.
I can’t wait to meet you!