I’m not going to even talk about the atrocities committed by Kermit Gosnell or why I refuse to put the prefix of doctor in front of his name. He butchered babies. He did it in a way that would have made Hitlers doctors of death proud. So what that they were late term abortions, he is a murderer and a sadist.
He’s not worth my words, only my spit and my curses.
He sickens me.
On the other hand, this pissed me off.
It’s the article from the stir as “reported” by a blogger named Jenny Erikson.
She was reporting about this horrific person and his inhumane actions. Fine. So report. Save the opinion for your blog. I’m so offended by this author that I won’t read The Stir again.
When I was in high school, I knew a few kids who had abortions. They chose not to let a pregnancy be their dead-end.
I also knew a 9th grader, when I was a senior, who, from what I heard…her parents refused to let her have an abortion. She disappeared when classmates found out she was knocked up. I ran into her around 15 years later. She had a 15 year old son. She wasn’t 30 yet.
I have a family member who, on her 3rd pregnancy, was told that there was no way the pregnancy would have a happy ending. It would be either her or the baby. She was early in her first trimester, had two kids at home who needed a mommy more than another sibling. And so…she terminated that pregnancy.
And then I have a dear friend who had a devastating choice to make when she was nearing her 6th month. The amnio tests came back that the baby was abnormal and that, very potentially, the quality of life for her would be horrible.
My friend decided to go ahead and have a late term abortion. Which destroyed her and paralyzed her with guilt.
Whether they want abortions or not, the decided to go ahead and get them.
They all had the right to choose.
Pro-choice.
God I love our country.
But then we have our freedom threatened by narrow-minded, self-righteous people who have to throw around their opinions like they are going to become a signed bill.
Sometimes abortions are the only answer.
Sometimes abortions are just the lesser of evils.
But I’ll tell you what? Today, at this very moment, if I were to find out I was pregnant? I’d run my fat ass to the nearest MD and tell them to remove the embryo from my body. Without a second thought. Because, at my age, I’m completely done and the next baby that is biologically related to me will be from one of my children…after they are married.
Because you’d better believe I’d take my daughters for abortions if they turned up pregnant. They will NEVER be an episode of that horrible show, 16 and Pregnant.
I don’t believe in abortion, especially when used as birth control, and I especially don’t believe in late term abortion (unless there are exceptionally extenuating circumstances). But I sure as hell believe in having that choice there for me, just in case.
I don’t judge those of you who are Pro-life. That’s your CHOICE.
Stop judging those of us who CHOOSE to be Pro-life.
That is what this country is all about.
Being able to choose freely without being tried and hung.
So please…keep your opinions out of the news or stick to writing blog posts.
(Because, I’m assuming, from the way that “article” started…that it was a news article and in news articles, opinions don’t generally make it past the fingertips of the person who is typing).
HERE HERE. First of all the article was terrible but aside from that it was skewed in such a way that made it even harder for me to read. I still really don’t get what happened. These women had late term abortions, I get that. Are those illegal? I guess I didn’t know that. The focus of the article SHOULD have been on the doctor performing illegal operations and the malpractices therein and NOT about the morality of his practice.
Okay, word, but I’m confused. You said that your daughter would “never” be 16 & Pregnant, and that you’d take her for an abortion. You also said you’re Pro-Choice, so what if she decides to keep the baby? Or is that not one of the choices she’s allowed to pick from? For the record, one cannot claim to be Pro-choice unless they support ALL choices. Being pro-choice doesn’t mean “I choose abortion for you, little girl.”
Okay, so we discussed our differences of opinion. Here’s my variated hypothetical: what if your daughter was pregnant at 16 and didn’t want to have an abortion, but WAS accepting about adoption? Would that be amenable?
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Here, here! For a while in my earlier years, I worked at Pro-Choice, when they were in Southfield on 10 Mile. You continue to show what a strong woman you are, with posts like this!
Melissa,
Couldn’t imagine if in the next few years that was my daughter and a decision had to be made, and I couldn’t even imagine if she decided to keep it. But in the end, I don’t think I would be driving her anywhere and making her do anything because it was “my choice.” Whether she meant to or not, she, her mom, and I would all have to work together on a decision that would be best for my daughter and for that baby and whether or not to keep it……………that’s the “choice.”
aaron and zoeyjane…
i hope none of us ever have to worry about this with our daughters. but, while i strongly believe that everyone is born with a choice…
i also believe that a parent sometimes has to make that choice for their child. 16 is a child…someone who can NOT vote, can NOT drink, has to go through hoops to live on their own and be able to be self sustaining, can barely drive…
is not capable of a realistic choice for their future when it comes to something like this.
just like i chose to do a bris for both my boys…
just like i chose to get 2 of my children’t tonsils removed…
I would have to, on behalf of my child…make this choice for them.
that is how strongly i feel about this.
and yes, i AM pro-choice. like i said, sometimes a more mature voice needs to overpower a younger voice, even after listening to all the “buts”.
-melissa
Report the facts and leave your opinion behind. That was my point about the sheriff in AZ last week. I blogged about that. Asked why so many people were calling him a HERO and people said it was because he used media to state his opinion.
I am watching a Dr. Phil show about a pregnant 16 year old who is adamant about her baby, and her parents are divided about it. He said letting her make that decision like a group of people are lost deep, deep in the forest, and they pick the most confused, most disturbed, most incapable person to lead them out. A pregnant teen is not in her right mind. That’s what parents are for.
Late-term abortion is an impossibly difficult subject. I’ve listened to mothers who made the decision to have them after consulting with their doctors and realizing that was their only choice, outside of death. Doctors do things to the human body every day that are horrifying and sickening, in order to save lives. What horrifies me are the people who use the painful, personal, private decision made in very difficult circumstances to further a political agenda.
It is a very touchy subject. I had to make a choice a long time ago, today I regret the decision my husband and I made. It was the time where it was just not feasible for us to have another child. It was only our 2nd week in US and we made the decision to terminate the pregnancy. We kept it to our selves and never and never discussed this with anyone. I honestly don’t understand the desire of some people to discuss, forth your opinion on the subject, on the totally different subject I am sick and tired of glamorization of teen pregnancy.
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Very touchy subject! š I don’t think I want to look at that “other” article. And I certainly don’t want to think about what I would do if my daughter turned up pregnant. Oy!
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I’m definitely pro-choice, and I can never imagine having an abortion under any circumstances FOR ME. But I absolutely don’t think that I have the right to make the decision for anyone else.
And what that doctor did was reprehensible. I really wish I hadn’t read that. As someone that suffered from infertility for so long the death of any viable infant really, really hurts me. I just don’t understand the place someone would be to choose that over adoption. Not for a healthy baby anyway.
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The author of the other article was definitely in the wrong – instead of reporting the story based upon that awful “doctor” who needs his testicles cut out and shoved down his throat, she pushed her beliefs into the article, completely twisting it around, sideways, then around again. It isn’t the first article I’ve seen written there that’s caused a commotion, and definitely won’t be the last. I like several aspects of what they’ve got going on, along with the writers, but I’ll be damned sure to skip over the Ms Erikson if this is the type of crap she writes.
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I agree. The choice should be available because there are many situations in which it is the only option, however painful. I dread when my daughter is old enough to be in danger of pregnancy. We know a girl who got pregnant at 13 (he was 13 as well). They both live with their parents and the baby is shuttled back and forth between the houses every week. I can’t imagine what kind of world view that little girl will have when she’s grown.
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I didn’t look at the other article for fear of my anger getting the best of me. I am pro-choice, but I am also pro pro-choice in that it is your choice to be pro-life. I however, do not and will not accept those who are pro-life and adminish my decision to be pro-life. This country was built on the idea of being able to choose period.
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Listen, in my line of work, particularly as of late, I deal with prenatal genetic testing. I get amnio samples from women daily. All of them testing for horrid diseases for which they, or their partner, are a carrier. I ache for these women, knowing that they are going through all the “what if’s”. The life expectancies (and quality of these little lives) are generally short. I can’t imagine the grief that goes along with that decision.
Having dealt with these cases, I can tell you that there are states (2 of them, and I can’t remember which) where you can legally get an abortion at what I can only describe as a hideously late gestation. Many states declare “late term” to be between 24 and 30 weeks. Those that allow it, usually have rules stating that the mother has to be at risk or the fetus isn’t likely to live.
I’m heavily pro-choice, though I couldn’t choose to do that for ME. But I’m not walking in someone else’s shoes so who am I to force my opinions on them? Regardless of their circumstances or genetic predispositions.
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I just wanted to point out to the people who may have been distracted by the article’s pro-life screaming… the post was actually *supposed to be* about the arrest of the doctor for infanticide, not late-term abortion. He induced delivery, fully-delivered the babies, and then killed them. That’s not abortion, and those mothers aren’t without responsibility, I think.
The intentional blurring of the issue by Jenny Erikson made it even worse, and the assertion that abortion comes about ONLY because women are either under-educated about their abilities, or pressured to do so…to me, that set the women’s movement backwards to the time when women were considered too fragile or unintelligent to vote.
Just my $0.02.
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I think noone has the right to judge others on their decisions. We have to respect it. We don’t know what it’s like to be in their shoes, and we dunno anything about life anyway. Who knows what’s right or wrong in this world? Maybe there’s a God, and abortion will put you to hell. Maybe God doesn’t exist and we should live a life with utmost pleasures so an abortion is the smart choice. Maybe raising a child will add more fulfillment – we just don’t know, and it’s just stupid for someone to claim they know it all, and can make decisions for us.
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Awesome post, totally agree, well said!
Everyone should be able to choose. And that doctor was not a doctor, was a horrible quack. Lock him up.
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Oy. I just hope that open and honest conversations about sex will lead to my daughter never getting pregnant in the first place… 9th grade, that’s really freaking sad.