The other night, my stepson was on Skype talking to a classmate. A girl that had been on the football team with him, during his short-lived stint at the athletics (he’s more of a drama guy).
Another girl, who was at my house, was all like…EW, that girl he’s talking to is gross. She’s like totally emo and bi, she tells EVERYONE. She dumped a boy to date a girl. And she’s just nasty.
Emo and bi?
In 8th grade.
OK, back it up. Emo I get. I do. It’s like being goth or punk. It’s old skool under a different name. Black make up, black hair, black clothes.
In 8th grade?
Wait though, my friends daughter told me that there is a girl in 5th grade that is telling everyone she’s Bi.
As in…Bi-Sexual. As in…being sexually interested in both sexes.
In 5th grade?
This? I don’t get.
Chances are, these kids haven’t experienced sex with anyone except, maybe, themselves.
Do these kids need attention THAT badly that they are willing to risk what their peers think of them?
Or have they really already decided that they are bi-sexual at such young age?
My kids told me that, in their schools alone, there are a handful of kids announcing their emo, bi-sexual status.
As early as middle school.
Kids nowadays are foreign to me.
I don’t get them, at all.
When I was in middle school, all I cared about was Duran Duran, ballet and a boy named David Fisher.
High school was the same except for my crush…Neal.
I didn’t even think about kissing(until I was a little older, like 10th grade. I was a late bloomer, I suppose).
I simply had a crushes.
I don’t remember knowing from being straight, gay or bi.
I know that my parents had a lot of gay friends because of the antique business that my mom was in. Excuse the stereotype because really, this is the truth.
The 80’s must have been a really sheltered time. Because these days, kids are so much more knowing than I was at a way younger age.
Hello internet and cable.
One thing that remains constant is, these kids with the “issues” are the ones with questionable parenting. Well, that’s the way I see it. These kids may have a mom that is in the kitchen cooking but not paying attention to what junior is doing or saying.
Just because the parent is around doesn’t mean they are informed or involved.
Obviously these kids are crying out for attention. And it’s not going to end until they get what they are craving. Only, sometimes the progression is worse.
I guess times don’t change that much and my parents were probably of the same school of thought in regards to punkers. However, I believe it’s gone to the extreme with this invasive technology being in your face.
The bottom line, as with everything else, parents need to parent. Kids are crying out louder for help and attention. We need to be available to them.
If you really are bi-sexual or gay, that’s all fine and dandy. Sing it loud and proud.
But if it’s just for attention? Go tap your mom, dad or someone close to you on the shoulder and let them know you really need to talk to them.
Or call me. Because I care.
Parents, open your eyes because it’s YOUR problem.