July 28th, 2010 
admin 
To My Husband,
The week has barely started, but already it’s been very long.
My friend died. I’m emotionally and physically exhausted. My sadness is sitting in a lump in my throat and sinking into my stomach.
The house is a mess, between what OUR youngest son did when he dumped all his toys out to me trying to clean them up and reorganize. Which, by the way…thanks so much for the help. The kitchen sink is full of dishes. The house needs to be vacuumed. I’m trying to plan that little B’nai Mitzvah for October. I’m getting nothing done.
I’m a mess. I feel like my life is a mess. And…I have a helluva constant headache.
I didn’t want people in the house. I don’t think that’s selfish of me, seeing as you JUST had one of your loud, obnoxious poker games here on Friday.
But, you chose to pretty much say fuck you to me and there they were, a little skeleton crew, sitting at the kitchen table playing poker and drinking beer.
There is never a middle ground. Everything is what YOU want and you could give a rat’s ass about anything else.
So, I’ll tell you what. Here’s the deal.
As long as you keep having poker every single week, contrary to what I have asked…
I’m not doing shit around here. Do it yourself.
You will receive the same respect that you are constantly bestowing upon me.
I know…you don’t care. You never do.
Signed,
Your Wife.
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Good luck with the strike.
Tara R.´s last [type] ..You treat her like dirt…
I could have written something so very very similiar to my own husband almost every day of the last 18 years that we have been together. Enjoy your strike and don’t give in.
I’m really sorry for the loss of your friend, it must be gut-wrenching.
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From the other camp… Good for you. A marriage should be equal, barring that it should be as close to equal as it can be. None of this “I work and all you do is take care of the house”. As a stay at home dad, I know how hard it is to clean, cook, and take care of kids.
I hope something positive comes of this.
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Well at least he cleaned up after himself and his friends. Poker is a great way to manage stress. It is clinically proven to add years to a man’s life. I hope you enjoy your LONG life together with this wonderful human being.
poker playing husband,
yes, i’ll admit, the kitchen table was nice and neat and there were no empty beer bottles laying about. kudos. i don’t know how you do it.
*HUGS* This reminds me of similar situations when I was married. I hope your strike works. Hang in there! I’m sorry about your friend.
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Good for you, Melissa. I hope he reads this. I hope he knows that EVEN I – the dimmest bulb in the box, sometimes, when it comes to figuring out relationship stuff, EVEN I wonder why he has to be such a putz.
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If I were your neighbor I would totally come carry picket signs with you.
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could always sit at the poker table and play and talk about pms and every other girly thing imagineable. Bet that wont bring them back….
Hugs sorr you are dealing with this.
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Love it…and have done it many times! The only problem is this damn OCD gets in the way!
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Good luck with all that.
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You sound like where I was two years ago. If you need someone to chat with that has been in that exact situation please email me. I know you don’t know me from Adam but I feel I’ve connected due to the poker and husband. It is very hard to compete against that stupid game. Hopefully the strike works, it didn’t with me but I have a few other solutions.
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