Driving my son to camp today, lost in my own thoughts, I turned on the radio. A little ditty bout “Jack and Diane” by John Cougar Mellencamp was on. Much to my 6 year olds chagrin, I turned up the volume, which drowned out his complaints and groans. I’m pretty sure he was saying something like “Is this what you call music?” or “What about some Eminem?” But, I couldn’t hear him between my own loud singing and the blaring speakers.
Then, David Bowie came on. Let’s Dance. I love me some David Bowie almost as much as Duran Duran. In fact, I think David Bowie is my favorite male soloist, on par with my beloved JT and his little singing group, D squared.
This station kept playing awesome song upon awesome song, throughout my entire car ride this morning. I vaguely remember thinking to myself, what a great station, playing my type of music. It’s like they know me. They are me.
Then, a commercial came on, announcing what station I was tuned into.
Our local Classic rock station. 94.7.
I think I was horrified and shocked.
My music is on my parents radio station and their music has moved to their parents muzak station. And my kids music…it has taken over the radio. What’s up with that?!
Time went so fast. My beloved 80’s music is now classic rock and retro music. RETRO. Holy OMG shit.
I started thinking about time. Which led me to friendships because I can mark friendships by what type of music was popular. And each friendship is defined by a song.
Which led me to time again and what I’ve learned since my friend Lori died.
I have some very good, old friends. Anna and Michelle are two of them. Not to mention Shari, Marcie and Jenn and Jenny and Niki. How I met each of them could be separate posts with crazy, fun, entertaining or heartbreaking stories, much like our friendships. Many of them have been through most of my personality growth defining moments. High school, college, engagement, marriage, pregnancy, divorce, life in-between, upside down and all around. They each carry a piece of me. And in my heart, I hold a piece of them.
And we barely ever see each other. It’s my fault. It’s that little thing called TIME again, mixed with excuses.
It passes. Moments race by.
I meant to.
Oops, I forgot.
I should have called.
Maybe next week.
Lori taught me not to live in the could have, should haves.
Don’t get caught in webs of excuses. Don’t fly with the moments.
Stop them. Grab them. Hold onto them.
Because if and when you get unstuck and can find a moment, it may be too late.
Just a little note to my friends both new and old,
I love you.
Loved this post…and the important reminder to let people in your life know how important they are to you.
It is funny how you associate certain songs with certain people, places, and friends in your life, isn’t it?
Hopefully, I’ll manage to post this comment without incident 😆
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When it’s all said and done, all that really counts is who you care about and who cares about you. Given the choice, friends and family win over fame and fortune – for me, anyway. Which is a lucky thing – because I ain’t got no money – but I got me some family and more than a few friends. And I’m rich.
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So many great memories! Love you always!
First of all, Retro is *so* IN right now – that they can’t possibly considered oldies!
And second – you are so right. Let’s live in the moment – and be sure to tell our family and friends how we feel about them!
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Annette W says
Oh, some days it just feels good to belt out those tunes…but it’s even better with a friend!
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Colleen - Mommy Always Wins says
I also connect songs with great people and memories. And you’re right – you’ve got to MAKE time to keep up your friendships. I’ve learned that the hard way!
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Unfortunately I have buried more than a few friends. Sometimes I look in the mirror and ask how at 41 I have been to as many funerals as I have, but the fact is that life happens and we lose people along the way.
So take the time now or you risk not having it later.
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Ashlie - Mommycosm says
This post resonates strongly with me right now. Just yesterday I said goodbye to a close childhood friend who died in a car accident. Certainly changes your perspective, huh?
Someone at the funeral said, far more eloquently than this, but…it’s not how often you talk or see each other, it’s how well you show that you value your friendship that matters.
Oh, and I just went to a Bon Jovi concert over the weekend – they were just as good as circa 1988 when I first saw them. Retro? I don’t think so…we’re not THAT old…are we?
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