I don’t mean to brag but, I got invited to a ultra fancy fashion show while we are in New York.
Then I got uninvited.
Technically, I didn’t even really get invited because the only thing that was in the body of the email was this: H. L (STL-WSW) would like to recall the message, “Style ‘N Smile – Back-To-School Fashion Show with Jennie Garth Aug. 5”
End transmission. Quite frankly, I’m just assuming that this is a Blogher event because of the date. But yeah, it was RECALLED. From MY email inbox.
See, I’m more specialer than you.
I can brag about the parties I got uninvited from.
All those bloggers who are tweeting and facebooking about the plethora of private shin-dig invites that big brands have wooed them to, FEH! You have nothing on me. Although, it is kind of depressing that no one loves me as much as they love you. BUT…
I have better hair than you. MWAHAHAHA!!
While I’m on the subject…
I don’t know about any of you but I’m kind of getting sick of the whole private party at Blogher thing. It’s SO high school/college. OVER IT. And yay for those who got invited into the sorority! Awesome, you should be proud of yourselves. It’s QUITE the accomplishment. (no, no sour grapes…at all!) Really, I think it’s cool. But I’m tired of all of us bloggers that aren’t popular being made to feel Unintentionally? (Or not) Like insecure shit. This is what I really am not digging about Blogher. The whole popularity contest. I turn my nose up at it.
I was never a conformist anyway.
I’m a proud, lone soldier. Waving my flag of rejection. If you want me, you can find me at the Hilton’s bar, nursing my poor ego on a Lemon Drop Martini, wearing one of my super cute dresses paired with Croc Flip Flops on August 5th. And probably the other couple of nights too.
I’m having my own private party. And EVERYONE is invited.
UPDATE
This evening I received an email from the lady who “recalled” the invite. Apparently, there was a “glitch” in their system and she apologized for the misunderstanding. I guess I had been invited to this event…although I never received an invitation…and the offer is still open. I don’t know the details but I am looking forward to finding out what they are!! I SO appreciate this lovely lady putting herself out there and contacting me! I can’t even tell you how much better I feel!
BUT…I still am not a huge fan of the private parties. Too many people are left out!! Like my mom used to say in regards to something or another that I can’t remember…It’s all or none. I get the fact that there are a ton of bloggers going to this conference though. Rock and hard place. Hmmm…
Some of us San Diego girls have been talking about this exact same thing. As disappointed as we may be, we too are planning on throwing our own party. Ok, kind of, even if it is just us sitting around drinking wine.
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But hey, if you’ve got to be one of the unpopular girls, NYC is the place to do it! I’m sure we can find plenty of much more fun, infinitely more exciting things to do than drink free booze at a private party, right? Right!
The only thing I got invited to was the Kodak tour. And I can’t go, ’cause I had already booked my flight. Boo.
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I’m so down for a drink. and the private fiesta!! I’m not a fan of these private party things.. What’s the point? We’re grownups, shouldn’t we be over that stuff by now? I know why I blog, and it’s not to get invited to parties.
I got invited to like 750* private parties, and I like totally said, “ummm, no thank you, because DUH, the cool people will be in the bar talking about how they weren’t invited and that is SO where I am hanging out.” Order me a Grey Goose dirty up with two olives if you beat me there.
*I didn’t get invited to any.
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Good for you! Never was much of a conformist either. So, if that’s what the big Blogher thing is all about…they can keep it!
By the time I leave BlogHer, the Hilton bar will have a seat with my butt print engraved on it.
Also…I’d so much rather hang in small groups at bars drinking lemon drop martinis than listening to a sponsor drone on and on.
True story.
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Well those of us that aren’t going at all will be sitting at home nursing our Diet Coke while we listen to our kids scream and be jealous of everyone in NYC.
Or maybe that will just be me.
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Another reason I’m glad I’m not going to BlogHer. I would totally feel insecure the entire time.
But dang, getting uninvited is just plain COLD. That is beyond embarrassing. For the company who sent that out.
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When I first starting blogging I joined all those groups and within weeks un-joined them. It all seemed really high school. I was thinking about going to a blog convention in SF (i think it was SITS) because at least I use to live their so have many friends in the area if it sucked. But I saved that money for a much better cause: a trip to Morgans Wonderland (the very first Special Needs amusement park) and the kids and I are going in a couple of months! Thats not to say I will never go to a blog convention. If it’s one that a lot of my fellow bloggers are attending,in an area where i know folks, I may jump on board. Most likely I will probably spend the evening at the Local Bar with my Local friends.
Jenny Mcarthy? Eh, you didn’t miss much.
HAHA it was Jenny Garth… should i be able to tell the difference? I never listen when either one speaks.
That email party recall is ridiculous. 🙁 anyway, I’m going to 2 private parties and I do talk about it on Twitter b/c I want to know who else is going. Not to be all braggy b/c who cares!!! Like you said the most fun will happen in the Hilton anyway!! I’m so excited to meet you and some others!!! Yay! And… NYC!!!! Just awesome!
Awww…this makes me sad. I’m not going to Blogher and thankfully don’t have to worry about parties and which ones I can or cannot go to. Too bad everyone has to be divided like that, but I can see how there might just too many people to try to accommodate. I’m sure you’ll have fun no matter what!
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Thus the reason I’m not going to BlogHer – I mean, if you REALLY want to feel like an outsider, just go to BlogHer without a vee-jay-jay and not be “Busy” or “BackPackin'” or the man with the candy bar middle name.
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This is the number one reason why I’m not going to BlogHer…well, this and the fact that I have something to do with my daughter that weekend (which we could have skipped if I really wanted to go to BlogHer).
I don’t play games. I don’t do “clicks.” Everything I’ve heard about BlogHer sounds like a free-for-all of who can be the most popular. That isn’t fun for me.
Now, if I *were* going, I’d so join you at the Hilton in a heartbeat. Heck, I’d want to go out to dinner with you. I know exactly where that hotel is and of three good restaurants nearby.
But the “exclusive” party thing? Please. I did high school. I grew up. Aren’t we past that yet?
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I’m with you! As one of the legions of unknowns, I’m not invited to anything exciting.
But I’m thrilled to just be going, and I’ll bright there with you in my Crocs!
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I’ve got a good one for you…I was talking with two companies at length about partial Blogher sponsorships. In the end, both companies said that they were so overwhelmed with sponsorship requests (and since they were not ‘official’ sponsors this year) that they decided to have no affiliation with the conference. Cut to a week later and I see that both companies are having private parties in NYC the week of Blogher. Of course, the same old people are invited.
It’s like dating – I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me, so I sure as hell don’t want to be at a party that doesn’t want me there.
I prefer hot dogs from a street vendor, a flask of vodka, and friends.
I’m with Shredder Feeder. Ditch the fucking party and party with ME. I didn’t get invited to anything and I couldn’t care less.
This is exactly why I’m not going to BlogHer. I can feel unwanted and insecure at home for a lot less money.
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Great post, and totally agree! Its getting so silly, and really what POOR PR to get these private invites when people are TWeeting where they are going, and letting others know how exclusive they are.
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Melissa, I adore you. Let’s start with that, because you’re not going to LOVE what I’m about to say.
I was on that invite list too. What happened was we all got invited not once, but twice. Then a third email came through and it was directed to someone at a big publishing house, but we were all copied on it.
The publicist recalled THAT PARTICULAR EMAIL, which I’m finding is a common practice that meant to head off issues just like this.
My husband has one main convention every year. He leaves the house with a thick binder, he has lunches that are planned, private brand parties, dinners, and drinks. This is not unique to BlogHer this is quite simply how business is done.
I think you’re overreacting, I think everyone is because Blogging has defaulted to to a cliquish unpleasant social circle. However, by opting out with grace you (and your readers who do not enjoy the private party aspect) have the opportunity to have a lovely time in New York.
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Oh, Melissa! I so look forward to shootin the shit with you in NYC. And I say go to the private party. I sure as hell would!
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I pretty much agree. I am going to one private party and it’s only because it’s for the site I write for, so it’s more like friends getting together and it’s not sponsored. I go to BlogHer to connect with other bloggers and to see my friends, and while I get that for some people, it’s part of their “brand” or business, but if saying anything (or doing anything) to get free stuff is your business, those people should probably learn about professional behavior.
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After reading all the comments and Jessica’s explanation … classic case of misuse of the “Reply all” button.
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You just made me feel good about not going to Blogher this year. Because I’m sure I would not be invited to any private parties and would feel very un-cool.
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You’re not going to believe how many parties I got invited to! Seriously. You’re going to shit your pants!
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I hope you have fun at Blogher. I wish I could go, I will even be in NYC, but its my son’s birthday weekend and I couldn’t imagine leaving the kids to go to a convention for a blog my family does not know I have.
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I hate to be the opposite of everyone else in the comment section (PLEASE, no hate mail for this comment – I think Melissa is AWESOME) but, this sort of thing happens ALL.THE.TIME. Part of my job is to book these sorts of private parties/gathering/dinners etc when the sales team goes to a conference. We only invite those that we think we can actually sell and who at the end of the day is going to provide us with the biggest ROI. It’s just how it is.
I’m not saying that it’s right or that I agree with it – it’s just how it is – and that I understand it from a business perspective. And, with some many looking to have their blogs viewed as viewed as a “businesses” and not a “hobby” – the more standard business tactics and principles are going to apply and come into play.
Have fun in NYC Melissa – Hands down it is one of my favorite cities in the world.
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I was explaining, whining, to my hubs that I didn’t get invited to any private parties. AND that I didn’t even know they existed until like 2 days ago. (It’s all the Amber Page chick’s fault 😉 )
And he was all but YOU’RE going to like 4 parties.
But no, this is different.
And then he pointed out that since I regularly offend my mother, don’t have ads and don’t do product giveaways that I am, in fact, NOBODY’S target market.
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