I text, despite the fact that I’m turtle slow and haven’t fine tuned my hidden mad thumb skillz to make texting easier. I’m not a huge fan but if I have to tell someone something and they aren’t answering their phone, it’s easier to text the message than to actually try and remember what it is that I want to say. My ADD is awful these days so the only thing I remember is…SQUIRREL…
I text my husband often during the day. He’s at work. I have something that I have to tell him and I don’t want to bother him with phone calls, so I send off often misspelled and auto corrected to the wrong word texts.
Some of my texts allude to sexual acts, some of them are flat out insulting and obnoxious. It depends on what it was that I had to tell him at that particular moment and what my mood was.
He doesn’t erase them apparently.
So today. He took three of the five of our kids to work with him. He is the administrator of summer school at the high school where he teaches during the actual school year and they wanted to go with their daddy to work. Seeing as, they aren’t doing much this summer and walk around whining out of boredom anyway. I say, better him than me. I just have to deal with my 6 y/o and 14 y/o sons, which isn’t that easy either, come to think of it.
Now though? Even though they are all hanging out together in a practically deserted school, they are bored out of their mind, having been there since 6:45 a.m.
They decided to start going through and reading his text messages. Particularly the exchange between him and me. They are kids. And they are nosy. You remember the whole listening to us have sex incident from last summer?
Anyways…they found an oldish text where I was insulting his ex-wife and her new husband. I don’t even remember it. I was probably just pissed about something and instead of saying something like “fuck you and the horse you rode in on” or threatening to withhold certain “favors”, I attacked in a different direction. A direction that he could care less that I even attacked in.
But he didn’t erase it.
And his kids found it today, while they were bored and looking for something to do.
My 12 year old daughter…my birth daughter…called me. She wanted to know why I said something horrible about her step siblings mom. I got mad at HER. Because she was snooping in a place that was none of her business. Which, my texts to my husband are clearly none of anyone else’s business besides mine and his.
He doesn’t seem to care that they found it.
That text was meant for his eyes only. Unattractive words that had no effect on him because they were about people he doesn’t care all that much about. People that his children love with all their hearts.
They read something that isn’t even how I truly feel, I was just being mean out of anger and annoyance over a situation that I don’t remember.
This is something that they will hold on to. And always wonder if I really feel this way about their other parents. Which…I don’t.
While I can’t take it back or tell them they misunderstood, because the words were spelled properly and clearly, I have learned a lesson.
From now on, I only sext and gossip.
I’d rather them be mortified and have their eyes burn when snooping than have their hearts broken.