Comments on: A Rant Because I’m So Freaking Annoyed

By: Michele

Michele — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 17:12:50 +0000

Thank goodness these kids have you!!!

Oh, goodness, Melissa, I so feel for you! I’ve faced a similar situation and, yes, the unfairness of it all just makes you want to go punch the moron in the nose.

Yeah, life isn’t fair…but some things shouldn’t be THIS unfair!

If you can get a break, come down to Bloggy Boot Camp in March. I’ll buy you a glass of wine and toast your awesomeness.
.-= Michele´s last blog ..Men, Mothers, & Models, or Why I Haven’t Got a Prayer =-.

By: dysfunctional mom

dysfunctional mom — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 11:36:01 +0000

But you know you wouldn’t trade places with her for a minute.
You have it so much better than her – not easier, for sure, but better.

By: Miss Behavin

Miss Behavin — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 21:16:11 +0000

I don’t know how you manage it all so well, Melissa. I agree with the previous commenter who suggested that you just drop her kids off to her on her scheduled days. Don’t give her an out, or make it easy for her to disappoint HER kids. I can’t even imagine how sad they must feel – internalizing her selfishness and feeling as though they are somehow bad because their own mother doesn’t want to see them. Straight up – I’d just tell her too bad, bitch – I have plans!
.-= Miss Behavin´s last blog ..Love Is In The Air =-.

By: Alyssa

Alyssa — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 16:28:24 +0000

I know it does not seem fair now BELIEVE you me we have been there! When my husband was going thru med school he would have gotten grants for certain circumstances even though he had an almost 4.0 average and it upset us SO much…$250,000 later it all worked out and he got a better job with better sign on bonus than the other person who is soaking the system. Get my drift. Just remember what goes around comes around in the long run. Hard honest work does pay off…keep at it!
.-= Alyssa´s last blog ..Stepford Wives For Real? =-.

By: Becka_911

Becka_911 — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 16:28:01 +0000

You have every right to resent the fact that this woman is using everyone and everything around her. I’m sure by now you have figured out a number of things. Like the fact that when the kids grow up, they will see the huge difference between how they were treated by you, and how their biomother treats them. They already see it, I’m sure, and just may not be able to put it into words. Once they grow up, and go off on their own it’s going to be you that they come back to. And when you’re an old lady, and she’s an even older (looking) hag, I can only hope for you that they will come to your side and give you what you have given them all these years. And the fact that none of those things matter to her right now…when she finally gets what she has sought all these years, she will have it. She will be alone. And you will have the people you loved around you. Making noise. Being there. Loving you back. Hang in there. You’re working for your future in more ways than you know.

By: The Retired One

The Retired One — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 16:16:25 +0000

But you will gain wisdom from your life experience that she will never grasp.
You may get B’s and not A’s due to the time limitations, but you will really learn. That is what it is all about.

P.S. Make the father of the children give you some alone time to study! You have the right!
.-= The Retired One´s last blog ..Here they are! January’s PHOTO CONTEST entries!!! =-.

By: Deb

Deb — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:07:01 +0000

I’m with you on how hard the multitasking with kids can be. I don’t have bio parents to deal with, but I do get resentful of friends that just drop their kids off at the grandparents’ house–FOR THE NIGHT–on a whim. Just because they’d like a quiet house for a night. Wouldn’t that be nice? Both of our families love the kids, but they still work and don’t all live nearby. They babysit on occasion and we truly appreciate it rather than just expect it.

Hope venting helped you feel a little better!!
.-= Deb´s last blog ..Sunday snippets =-.

By: Complicated Mama

Complicated Mama — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:38:34 +0000

That is definitely a very frustrating situation!

Some people just don’t get what parenting is… she should be kissing your A$$ for being the wonderful amazing stepmother that you are to her children.

Those kids are so fortunate & believe me one day they will realize everything themselves.

Hang in there chica!
((hugs))

By: MomZombie

MomZombie — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:03:33 +0000

While I don’t walk in your shoes and my situation is different, I think I understand your frustration. I’ve been trying to work at home since last October with very little child care and no outside help for any of the household chores either inside or out. Lately I’ve been going a bit crazy trying to keep up with demands from many fronts: the kids’ needs, work for clients, volunteer obligations and the household stuff. As a result, I get very little sleep which makes me crabby and irrational.
I know the load is unfairly tipped in your direction, but it sounds like the kids are better off with you. They will be better for your sacrifices and maybe someday the ex will be better for her efforts. Still sucks for you. I hope you can get some relief soon.
.-= MomZombie´s last blog ..How the story ends =-.

By: LB

LB — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 13:28:49 +0000

Girl, take a load off! I’m not sure how old the kids are, but your hubby can kick it up a notch. I feel your pain. The only time I can get anything done is when I stay late at work, and I only have two kds!

The Ex seems like a piece of work, though. You ought to just dump the kids off at her house one day saying you need a break! What could she do? What could she say? Hell, you’re raising HER damn kids!

Some folks make me nuts! Just because you CAN reproduce, doesn’t necessarily mean you SHOULD reproduce…
.-= LB´s last blog ..The Misadventures of a JC Junkie =-.