I wrote a pitiful, oh woe is me type post the other day about being left out of New Years Eve plans that were being made all around me. And how we were not going to have much to do except sit around and look at each other.
Funny how things change.
My little friend Courtney was invited to go to this Collective Bias Colgate sponsored event in Royal Oak. And she ended up not being able to go. So guess who gets to go instead?
Yep. Me! Oh yeah, and my husband.
We haven’t gone out, as in on the town, on New Years Eve in about 6 years!
The miracle of all miracles, we were able to get our get our sitter…last minute!!
Now I just have to find something to wear that is cute and covers my fat tushie yet looks sexy and bar appropriate! All I know is that I’m going to have to wear double Spanx to suck in the spare tire.
It is going to be super cool and awesome and I can’t wait to tell you all about it!
Look for my tweets and my whrrl story, starting New Years Eve day!
Here’s the thing.
I will never give a virtual high five when someone writes about the fact that they are leaving their husband for another man. And the other man has finally told his wife and he is leaving her.
I don’t care how shitty the marriage is and that the person was going to leave eventually anyways.
I don’t care if the relationship hasn’t been consummated yet.
An emotional affair is just as disgusting, hurtful and vile as a physical one. Actually? It’s worse because you are sharing intimate details of your life and betraying your family and their trust in you.
It absolutely amazes me that anyone can support and condone that type of behavior. What if it was your spouse?
And I also find it fascinating that there is not a single person who gave a virtual bitchslap. Oh wait, I did. Also, a couple other people I know did. Yet, those comments weren’t approved. Because I guess it’s supposed to be all peaches and creme, the whole business of cheating. Physical or otherwise.
It’s not and that situation sucks.
No, I will not go into more detail than this. Unless you are my mother, sister or one of my friends and then I’m sure I’ll get a phone call where I will have to tell you what I’m talking about.
Someone explain to me how all you awesome blogger people find the time to go to all those blogger events all around the country? And who watches your kids?
I’m just curious. I was talking on the phone with another blogger and we were wondering about it.
Not that it matters.
Because, in my world the only place I go is to work and the carpool line.
I wonder those same damn things! Who has that much of a babysitter or disconnect with their children to “jet set” all over for this stuff. I can’t visit the toilet alone much less go on a trip without them. Have so much fun on New years…can’t wait to read and see!
sarah @bakenate says
woo hoo for going out new years eve. enjoy. we are sitting home staring at eachother.
I will be attending three confernces. since my mom is unemployed she will be staying with them. This will be my first time attending any. I also am spreading them out feb june and sept/oct. I want to learn more about marketing and socail media. as this my major for school. I am home 24/7.
I agree with you on the affairs.
I know I certainly don’t have the money or babysitters for a blogger event.
I find it amazing that people would even blog about their affairs, much less that people would respond favorably. That’s the kind of thing that can backfire on all cylinders. At best.
Glad you get to go out on New Year’s Eve! We’ll be celebrating Christmas with part of my family in Nashville. Not driving is always preferable on New Year’s Eve.
.-= Janet´s last blog ..Merry Christmas to All and to All a Good Night =-.
Miss Behavin says
Now you know I am curious as to who the cheater is! Spill it, Melissa! lol
Seriously, there is no reason for you to keep their sick secrets, especially if this cheater is blogging about it!
Have a wonderful night out on New Year’s Eve. I’m not sure what I’m doing yet!
.-= Miss Behavin´s last blog ..From Quiet Reflection Will Come Effective Action =-.
You know that I agree.
Re: the conferences, my husband will be watching my son while I go to them. I’ll let you know how it works out, it may be something that never happens again!
.-= abdpbt´s last blog ..23 Custom Toll-Free Phone Numbers That Raise More Questions Than They Answer =-.
My kids are grown and the only thing I have to concern myself about if I want to make a blogger event is budget.
There’s a difference in cheating. Physical cheating? It’s sex. And that’s all. But spending the emotional currency somewhere outside your committed relationship? THAT’S wrong. Period.
.-= lceel´s last blog ..Monday Meanders 12-28 =-.
As one who is doing jack diddly squat for the fifteenth year in a row for New Year’s, I’m both jealous and happy for you! Have a great time!
Emotional cheating is definitely worse than physical cheating. It hurts a hell of a lot more. That people think that because “the deed” isn’t “done” then everything is still okay is disgusting.
I’m with Miss Behavin’…heck, they’re bragging about it, so whose privacy is being protected here? Just shows what a nice, moral, sweet person you are.
Blogging conferences? Jeez, I’d love to know how some people can have one to three posts a day and keep up with all the comments and still visit a gazillion other people’s blogs. ‘Cause, me, I have this thing called a life, so I don’t have forever to do all that stuff. That being said, I am going to go to SITS blogging bootcamp because it isn’t too far from me and I wanted the (really good and fun) excuse to get out of dodge. Plus I like the bloggers who are presenting. And maybe I’ll learn something, like how some people can have one to three posts a day and keep up with all the comments and still visit a gazillion other people’s blogs.
.-= Michele´s last blog ..Recession Beauty, Part I: Coconut Oil =-.
First of all, here’s the virtual Bitch slap to whoever that was, and also a set of cyber knives to the eyeballs just so they definitely get the message.
All those Blogging conferences; hmmmmm…… MUST have a nanny in the background. Because as for me and mine, they’re just gonna have to tag, tied to a rope at my waistline (THAT should be interesting), along if/when/hopefully/praying that I get to go to the BlogHer convention in NYC.
Relatives – F*** Em! I gave up trying to please all of them all of the time. Luckily, most get my sense of….. whatever that is.
.-= Carolyn´s last blog ..It Was Wonderful Christmas — Now Let’s Get Over It! =-.
Karen MEG says
Yay for going out for NY eve! I don’t think we’ve done that in over 10 years, I am so looking forward to it for you!
I’m with you about the cheating stuff. Seriously.
Those bloggers who jet set around to all these conferences must have help.
.-= Karen MEG´s last blog ..Belated Fragments =-.
So jealous you are going out on NYE. Gawd, is it too late to make plans for the hunny and I? Have a blast!!!
.-= OHmommy´s last blog ..No batteries included =-.
Karen @ If I Could Escape says
I wonder too about these mommy blogging events! Let me know what you find out! LOL Have fun on New Year’s Eve! Bring it on 2010!! Can’t wait!
.-= Karen @ If I Could Escape´s last blog ..Musical Monday … Don’t Stop Believing =-.
Kami Lewis Levin says
On Random 1: Have fun! Sounds great! I am actually excited about staying home this year. My husband’s gonna make a fancy, romantic dinner for us to enjoy post-kid bedtime. Huh. A romantic date. By candlelight. In our own kitchen…I may need to buy the Mominatrix book sooner than I thought…
On Randon 2: What?
On Randon 3: I would REALLY like to go to BlogHer this year. I’ve given my husband notice already. Not sure I can afford it, but I’m sure as shit gonna try!
.-= Kami Lewis Levin´s last blog ..I’m Almost Halfway There (Depending on What You Consider Halfway To Be) =-.
The Retired One says
I figure those people that attend a Blogger convention must all be rich so I would have nothing in common if I went (through some generous donation, also from someone rich).
Too bad about the broken up marriage thing. But there probably are all kinds of things you don’t know going on there, and it is harsh to judge another person so bad w/o knowing all the details. You certainly don’t have to agree or even like the behaviors you are seeing, but also, without knowing everything–the judging can be too harsh too.
.-= The Retired One´s last blog ..Well there’s bad news and there’s…… =-.
Courtney Velasquez (@theappleofmyeye) says
See…if you hadn’t bitched about not being invited to a party for New Years here on Rock and Drool, I wouldn’t have known to suggest that you be invited! Funny how things work out isn’t it:) Have fun my friend!
.-= Courtney Velasquez (@theappleofmyeye)´s last blog ..10 Best Products of 2009 =-.
dysfunctional mom says
Random #1 – WOOHOO!
Random #2 – Ugh. That’s just vile.
Random #3 – I’d love to know the answer to that too!
.-= dysfunctional mom´s last blog ..WordFUL Wednesday – Mother/Daughter Love =-.
No conferences for me. But I do hit up the local Shop Rite quite a bit and sometimes, on the REALLY good days, they give me a free slice of cheese when I buy a pound. That’s like a swag bag, right?!?!