Comments on: On Being A Childless Step Mom: A Guest Post

By: Britnie

Britnie — Tue, 03 May 2011 23:06:40 +0000

I too am a stepmother. And it is hard. Damn hard as you said. Thank you for the post, it was wonderful
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By: gigi

gigi — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 00:08:28 +0000

I’ve found my way here via – well, truthfully I don’t remember how I found my way here….

BUT AWESOME post! I’m a stepmom – and let me tell you – if I could do over, I’d re-think. Of course, I was very young and what the hell did I know about kids?!

But now, that she’s grown up (as have I) we get along very well – and I get the I love you’s and give them as well.

But…..for a while there……it was bad.

Sounds like you are a fabulous step-mom!!
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By: Dee

Dee — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 20:54:37 +0000

I always wanted kids but never did. I met and fell in love with a man with a 15 year old daughter. When she was 16 and we were married for 6 months she came to live with us. Big mistake but I think it had to do with the timing. Since his ex took his daughter out of state when she was 5 he only saw her for a couple of months over the summer and once in a while over Christmas so in addition to us getting use to each other we both had to get use to his daughter. She was the most spoiled, self centered person I’ve ever met. Her mom didn’t raise her, she raised herself and a child cannot raise a child.

After 6 months and many arguments she went back to her mom and when she was 17 she was pregnant. We’ve only seen our (yes our) granddaughter twice. The first time she was 20 months old and was the most adorable thing. The stepdaughter wasn’t as self centered as she was 2 years earlier. When the granddaughter was 2 they moved to Sweden to be with mom’s boyfriend. They just came for a 3 week visit and granddaughter is now 4. Stepdaughter is back to being self centered, selfish and spoiled. She expects everyone to care for her child but herself.

I haven’t gotten the “I Love You” from the stepdaughter but for 3 weeks I hear it several times a day from MY GRANDDAUGHTER and it’s the best sound in the world.
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By: Susan

Susan — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 01:13:11 +0000

Awesom! Just awesome .-= Susan´s last blog ..Dissection =-.

By: lceel

lceel — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 14:43:41 +0000

That’s the thing about kids – they do get under your skin – in good AND bad ways. And they stay there.
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By: dysfunctional mom

dysfunctional mom — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 09:53:19 +0000

Someone should’ve told you to run like hell, if you ask me! LOL
I think it’s hard weather or not you have kids of your own, the challenges are just different. But definitely one of the times I got the MOST angry at my stepson is when he hurt my baby. It’s just a different dynamic.

By: usedtobeme

usedtobeme — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 04:43:20 +0000

Beautiful post. I too was a step mom before I birthed children. I lived through what you describe. And like you, I never wanted to take the place of bio-mom. I have treated all three the same and finally, after 13 years, I got the I love you that came with sentiment and meaning. It was not forced or requested. It was real and came from the heart and I cherish it as much as when my birth children tell me. Maybe even more, because I worked for it.