Comments on: On Being A Mommy Bear Vs. Step-Mommy Bear.

By: dysfunctional mom

dysfunctional mom — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 09:49:45 +0000

I struggle with this too. And the thing is, I think most likely every blended family does, they just don’t want to talk about it because the Brady Bunch taught us that it wasn’t supposed to be this way. We were supposed to be one big happy family who all loved each other the same. But I’m quick to tell people, this ain’t no freaking Brady Bunch.
And another thing – those Brady’s didn’t have exes!!

By: Dharma

Dharma — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 06:34:45 +0000

I appreciate your candor on this subject.

I’m not a step-mom yet. I am the mommy to three kids — my two children from a past relationship (ages 16 & 12) and my 2 yr old from my marriage (which is no defunct and soon to be terminated). I have had a major struggle in dealing with my husband’s treatment of *my* kids versus his treatment of our daughter. It has been a major challenge for me — and likely one of the insurmountable issues we’ve faced that has contributed to the dissolution of our marriage.

My current partner (and one true love) has two boys from a previous marriage, but his kids are 12 and 15…we’re coming up here on the tail end of parenting, and Greg and I are SO on the same parenting page that I really don’t think we’ll have the same problems as the usual blended family does.

By: Tammy and Parker

Tammy and Parker — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 00:45:34 +0000

You know, I live this too……except instead of Mommy Bear vs. Step Mommy Bear it is Typical Kid Mommy vs. Special Needs Kid Mommy. I have to be really careful. Let’s face it, it isn’t my other 5 kids fault that they were born typical iykwim.

By: the planet of janet

the planet of janet — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 00:07:51 +0000

sing it, sister. i walk this line every day of my life. you/me=soul sisters. .-= the planet of janet´s last blog ..Giving thanks for the gift that keeps on giving =-.

By: complicated mama

complicated mama — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 23:55:27 +0000

I agree that no what there will always (naturally) be a difference in a parent vs step parent role.

I was raised by my mother and stepfather– and my mother gets so mad when my stepfather tries to discipline my teenage siblings.

Im sure you’re the coolest stepmom ever though
.-= complicated mama´s last blog ..Everything is cuter mini =-.

By: Susan

Susan — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 16:40:42 +0000

Great post. It has to be a hard ship to steer sometimes. .-= Susan´s last blog ..The Asshole =-.

By: Jen Hinton

Jen Hinton — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 04:34:44 +0000

I was in a position before I was married in which I was a somewhat stepmom(engaged to a guy with a daughter) and I didnt have my own kiddo. It was hard in general because you see things that the parent doesn’t want to see. Now having a little beast I know I would be extremely protective of my “little cub” for sure!

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 03:16:39 +0000

I love the honesty of your post. You’re stepkids are lucky to have a StepMom that cares enough to try to be fair to all of the children. Kudos to you !

By: Another Suburban Mom

Another Suburban Mom — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 00:18:48 +0000

This is a great post. I am sure that you work very hard to be fair and equal to the kids and they will appreciate it one day….

By: ciara

ciara — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 00:02:43 +0000

it's hard not to be biased with your own kids. i totally understand that. my hubs and i pretty much discipline our own kids, because even though we compromise on a lot of things when it comes to the kids, we have very different thoughts on how to raise kids in general. it also doesn't help when my stepson was raised getting everything he wants or does whatever he wants basically because of his real mom. she's in and out of his life. .-= ciara´s last blog ..Fatherhood Friday on Saturday =-.