Lately I’ve been in it for the wrong reasons. I lost sight. I forgot. I’m sorry.
When I started blogging in September 2007, I was blissfully ignorant. I knew nothing of PR, swag, conferences, numbers, reach. ETC. It didn’t matter to me.
All of a sudden it started to be super important. Because that’s all I hear about. I got caught up in the whole numbers game. Shaking my blogs boobies in hopes of more attention to this place.
But guess what? I don’t care about that stuff. Not at all.
Really? What is there to gain from going to these events? More traffic. Bigger and better products to review.
What’s the point?
I hate doing reviews. It bores the PISS out of me. I didn’t start blogging to write about products in hopes of getting free crap to clutter up my house. I blog because I thought I had some stories to share. And I do.
I love my blog. I adore my blog friends. I’m going to repeat what I tweeted yesterday. I said that it’s not the quantity of the people that you reach. It’s the quality.
And I’ve got quality in you. All of you. My friends that I have “reached” and who have “reached” me.
Yesterday I read through all the comments on my post that I wrote about being influential and I realized…because you all smacked me upside the face and mouth with this…I am. Somehow, I am so lucky to have so many wonderful friends who come to my blog, every single day, to read what it is that I have to say. Even when it’s completely random or insane. You come here.
You’re nuts. And I love you.
If having a large reach means having thousands of unique visitors a day stopping by. Fine. La Di Da.
But that’s not why I’m here.
Numbers, swag, stats, influence, clout, reach. Bite me.
I’m here to write about my silly life and all the crazy ideas that pop into my head. And I’m here to socialize with my friends. And if I’m lucky, meet you in real life.
I stood up and cheered!
Was going to say on your last post, be careful what you wish for! Those blogger trips seem to be filled with nothing but drama- sad really but not something I’d want to be part of.
I loved your review/struggle with the Venetian- That was real! Something people struggle with EVERYDAY! Companies I think need to be called to the carpet more then they need their ass kissed!
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you said PERIOD
.-= TeacherMommy´s last blog ..Sometimes Honesty is Not the Best Policy =-.
the blog her thing seems to be like a cult anyway, you’re better than that.
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Amanda @ High Impact Mom says
I realized just this exact same thing a couple of weeks ago and still struggle with the numbers game. You are wonderful, you’re hilarious, honest, and real. I love coming here because I can hear you in my head..in fact, sometimes I think you must there there.=) Keep it up…and I’ll keep coming back.
I love me some blog boobies!
Kami Lewis Levin says
Yeah, and I too was kinda enjoying watching you shake your blogger boobies. Alright then. On to the next thing.
.-= Kami Lewis Levin´s last blog ..Single-Momming It =-.
Leah @Bookieboo says
Back to basics…that is what I’m doing too right now. It’s so easy to lose focus with all the noise on twitter and competing interests. But we have to stay true to ourselves and what we believe in. 🙂
I like reading your blog…and am super glad you’re not all reviewy this reveiwy that.
.-= staciesmadness´s last blog ..You Capture-Photographer’s Choice. =-.
This, Melissa, this is why I love you.
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Marilyn (A Lot of Loves) says
I missed the other post cause I was busy dying a slow death in my bed. Good grief if you were worried about influence than I should be freaking out. I`m glad to hear you decided to just keep on keeping on. I have no idea how all those bloggers go to every conference out there. It`s amazing to me. Love your blog and as long as your real to yourself obviously people will come.
Missy! I am so glad you decided not to care and continue writing your random insanity that makes all of us feel like we are not alone with our insanity…:) Your great colorful writing has given me many laughs already:) Your real, fun, and thought provoing at times. Keep it up!!! I know so many moms that try to be perfect or never admit thier flaws…I am full of flaws and love others who can be as open as you. 🙂
I love your attitude! It’s easier to just sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride. What comes, comes. What doesn’t, doesn’t.
The Ranting Mommy says
Thanks. I <3 you in a special special way. Sometimes you just know a like-minded soul when you chat with one. And you are one, to me. Thanks for the post!
Miss Behavin says
I read an interesting post last night at Mom Bloggers Club titled, Numbers Don’t Matter – Your Blog Does – or something like that. It’s true – sometimes we get so sidetracked by all the nonsense we see and hear in the blogosphere (exclusive parties, swag, trips, sponsors, etc…) it’s easy to veer off course and worry about things beyond our control instead of those things within our control – like, our blogs, fine tuning our writing skills, attending workshops where we can grow and learn, and engaging people outside of our comfy little circle.
I value your contribution to the mommy blogging community, Melissa!
.-= Miss Behavin´s last blog ..Move Over, Atlanta! The Real Housewives Of Orange County Are Back =-.
Did you just call me nuts? I resemble that remark!
.-= Jill´s last blog ..The Princess turns 11 and her mother turns to the vino. =-.
Two Makes Four says
Just stopped by from the feature on Pajamas and Coffee and wanted to say that I couldn’t agree more. I also started blogging blindly, just thinking I wanted to document and share my story and have an online baby book….then I “found out” about mommybloggers and internet drama and Twitter crises whatever else is floating around out there. I still take the ignorant road and rarely check stats and don’t have any ads on my blog. Maybe that makes me a danger to the internet community….And I’m laughing at myself for even writing that. HA!
.-= Two Makes Four´s last blog ..Althea Toddling =-.
Now this I love more than influence!