Snuggling in bed with my kindergartener, reading Little Critter books and chatting, my son puts his arms around me and hugs me hard.
Him: I’m going to marry my mommy.
Me: Little boys can’t marry their mommies, silly. Little boys grow up and marry little girls who grew up.
Him: No. I’m going to marry my mommy. So we can lay in bed and make out and make sex.
Me: What. Did you just say?
I starting internally freaking. Thinking, what the heck is going on that he would say something like that.
Him: Mommy, it’s not a bad word. They say it on Family Guy.
Me: Where else have you been hearing this?
I ask him gently, kissing his forehead. I don’t want my fears to give him guilt.
Him: Besides Family Guy? A tells us at school all the gross stuff about girls and boys.
Me: Do you know what this stuff means, my love?
Him: No.
Me: Making out is kissing. And “making sex” is when a mommy and daddy give each other a special hug and it makes a baby.
I felt I had to say something about it. To let him know a little bit about what he is saying. What A is teaching him and his fellow kindergarten classmates. He was embarrassed.
A is a little girl in his kindergarten class. At five, I fear she has already had a tough life.
As badly as I feel for her, I don’t want my son’s innocence taken away. Not yet. Not in kindergarten.
I will be talking to his teacher. Hopefully she will be talking to her father.
Because I didn’t expect to be explaining what sex is to my son while reading Little Critter books.
Not at 5 years old.
Not in kindergarten.
It made me sad. And REALLY angry.
oh my. This is so sad 🙁 Good luck to you!
Oh my, that would make me an angry mama too. Good luck Melissa!
It’s a sad feeling any time someone takes away a piece of our children’s innocence. There’s always a kid out there who feeds our children with TMI. Just sad that it’s a 5.
TV isn’t much of a help either. They hear the word sex on there and use it like they know what it means 🙁
OMG that is horrible that he’s been exposed to that but it’s a great thing that you’re gonna get to the bottom of it! so sad that the girl must have been exposed to some things that she’s way too young to know
OMG! That is so sad this little girl can talk of such things, and then to pass it on. Five is way to young for such things! I remember having to explain what masturbation was to my no 16 yo when she was 11. When I asked where she had heard it, it was from watching CSI with me one night. I was very careful after that what I watched with her. Sometimes these things sneak in on parents, and sometimes parents just don’t watch carefully enough what their kids are watching. I can only hope that little got it from the former and not the later. Just because it’s a cartoon (ie Family Guy) doesn’t mean it’s appropriate for little kids. *sigh* Keep us updated on the little girl’s father’s response, please. I hope it was just an oversight and not something wrong in the home.
I truly hope this little girl has not been harmed in any way and is just precocious. Good luck talking with their teacher.
Egads!!!! I am not sure I would have handled that as well as you did. Good luck with that one….
If it is any consolation, I really like the way you explained what ‘making sex’ was.
But I completely agree with you, 5 is just too young for that! You handled it well!
They pick up on all of it so quickly…I find I am avoiding daytime tv, prime time tv, news etc..but she hears stuff from her big bro (grad 2 is apparently the height of knowledge and sophistication) and we just try to downplay it as much as possible.
What is making me nuts is the girl around here and in A’s class..she is 7….7 and was in heels and a mini with bare legs this weekend.
She wanted to play ‘family’ this wekend with A. According to him this meant laying under a blanket and cuddling. He told us NO WAY was he cuddling anybody!
heh….but yeah..what is this girl learning!!!???
My oldest kissed a boy for the first time in kindergarten(and hasn’t done it since..yet!). What happened to finger painting and singing at circle time?? :O
Yikes, you don’t expect to deal with this kind of stuff at such an early age…
Read my post about teaching young kids about the birds and bees…
http://amotherworld.blogspot.com/2008/08/birds-n-bees.html
damn! It would totally freak me out to hear my son say he wants to make out and make sex with me when he grows up. Nice handle on the situation, though. Kindergarten is so early to be learning all that – especially when he (and his classmates) aren’t old enough to comprehend it.
Melissa, I swear you and I are living parallell lives……slightly different but SO SO similar.
And I’m about to lose my mind!!
Oh. Uh. WOW! I’m not sure how I would feel about that. But they would NOT be positive feelings.