I participated in the Blog Swap, brought to you by Classy Jen of The Classy Closet. She’s cute. We like her!!
I’d like to introduce you to my guest. Heather, from The Mom In The Know Oh yeah, and be sure to go over there. I happen to have had the privilege of messing up her place.
I had no idea what to write, how to let you glimpse into my life. I’m Heather from The Mom in the Know.
As the mom of a “tween” I had no idea what to truly expect. Were the stories true? Was I in for an emotional roller coaster? Anger? Sadness? Depression? I have no idea but so far the hormones are a handful and my sweet little girl is a snarky, ball of emotions. Is there something in the water at the age of nine? Keep in mind that I have one that follows right after, she’s eight now. It seems like the stroke of midnight at nine she just turned into a hormonal mess, so out of control with how she was feeling. Don’t get me wrong, she’s not a bad kid not at all we have days. Some of them she’s sad. Some of them she’s mad, silly, funny, some of them she’s all of the above.
P loves to read, she loves animals, loves the show Psych, loves and love to torment her sister. Her dad is her hero. She can be so sensitive and want to curl up with her blankie and sleeps with mom, the next day spend all day playing littlest pet shop with her sister.
Then it turns on a dime and another kid possesses her body.
This kid, pushes her sister’s buttons, doesn’t listen to her parents, hides in the basement, forgets to do her homework. Which one is my daughter? This one hates to take a shower, won’t eat her dinner, sneaks her snacks, eats forbidden junk foods when she pleases talks back and seemingly doesn’t care, walks around the classroom as she pleases … who is that kid?
I’d be happy with a mixture of the two, okay powers that be? I don’t want a robot. I like that my child told me not long ago she believed in “God, Jesus, the Care bears and all that stuff.”
I like that she uses her freedom of choice, free will and has a mind of her own. I admit I don’t like how she uses it all the time, but I’m a parent, I need to deal with that on my own terms and own tears.
Part of this, I don’t know how to help her with her emotions, because I know she doesn’t know how to help herself. I know she has to deal and work through it, but as a mom I want to fix and save her. It’s so hard to let her just do it and work through it, when do I step in? I think I’ll know in my heart, I won’t be that parent that sits by, I’m pretty overbearing. Just ask the kids.
I have a therapist they visit every other week to do a feelings check, nothing intense, but I want to be sure. Worst that can happen is they learn how to communicate, somewhat. I hope a lot more comes out of it, but I don’t want to put expectations on them. I never do. I want happiness for them, no undue pressure.
P is a great little lady in the making, but if someone has “tween” advice out there, send it my way. I need all the help I can get.