I listen to my sister complain.
She is an attorney. She practices out of her home but also through my dads office.
Her husband has a great job too.
She feels that Womens Lib has failed her and many other working moms.
Why? I asked.
Because society dictates that women should go out and work. Yet, the rules haven’t changed to suit societies dictation, to paraphrase her. Women are also the ones in charge of taking care of the kids, the house, the meals. They are the ones who miss work when the kids are sick. Much more responsibility is placed on the mother than on the dad.
Just to name a few of her complaints.
Wanna know what I think?
Hear me out before you roll your eyes, judge me and delete me from your reader.
Yes. Women are the harder of work horses. There is NO DOUBT about it.
We do cook, clean, take care of the kids AND some of us work.
Some of us have no choice. We have to work to make ends meet.
The way I see it. Purely based on observation and no true research.
Well, the way I see it anyway, as I’m sitting in my kitchen, writing this. With both SAHM and WOHM notches in my motherly belt…which, by the way, is getting snug.
There are pros and cons to both.
Whether you are SAHM OR WOHM…
You chose the route.
Whether or not there was some martyr-ish behavior involved, it doesn’t matter.
For some families, there were no defined or definitive roles. For others, it was just assumed that the mom would be the one in charge of the household, whether or not she had a career.
I’m not going into all the pros and cons of SAHM vs. WOHM. Because that is so debatable. And there is no foreseeable agreeable conclusion.
SAHM and WOHM will always have a little war being raged.
Personally, I like the bit of time I get at the office. Where I have silence. No one is screaming “Mommy, wipe my tushie” or, “Mommy, he did this or that!” And I’m not wiping down kitchen counters. Or trying to herd a naked child back into the house.
WOHM resent SAHM for the time we get to spend with our children.
SAHM resent WOHM because they don’t have to spend so much time with the children.
And on. And on.
Quite frankly, I’m so sick of hearing the complaints being made.
I’m tired of hearing everything that husbands AREN’T doing.
And of all the burden of responsibility being placed upon you.
I’m sickened by the amount of disrespect SAHM’s receive.
And the judgments being made on the WOHM moms.
It’s so annoying.
Get over it.
Go to work.
Be a parent.
Tell your husband to get off his lazy ass and help.
Quit your job and become a full time mom if you can.
Hire a live in nanny…an au pair.
Run away from home.
stop your complaining.
And your finger pointing.
Because MY JOB as a stay at home mom…
Is fucking hard.
I’m up to my eyeballs in laundry.
I have 5 kids that make a mess behind me as I’m cleaning.
We’re barely making ends meet.
My husband is sort of lazy too. He’s cute though.
I can’t go into the bathroom without an audience or someone breaking down the door due to anxiety.
I don’t watch soaps because there is so much drama in my house, at all times, that I don’t have the patience to watch it on television.
This is what I CHOSE.
I wanted to be a stay at home mom.
I wanted to raise my children.
CHOSE to go to college.
To get a degree in your chosen field.
You CHOSE to work AND have kids.
So stop your bitching.
And just deal.
Because your life isn’t any harder than mine.
You just complain a LOT louder.
Now, just everyone get along.
Because we ALL have children to raise.
And let’s raise them the best we can in this really fucked up world.