I just want to address something very quickly. Because, quite frankly, I’m a little annoyed.
The posts about my kids finding out about my husband and I having sex. It was NOT about our sex life. It was about responding to children and their questions about sex. It was about dealing with what everyone I know and don’t know will eventually encounter sometime in their parenting lives.
Your children will, one way or another, discover that you, their parents, are having sex. They’ll walk in on you. They’ll find your toys. Somehow. Some way. They WILL find out.
And how are you going to respond to it? What are you going to say to them?
Aside from texting my husband. Or calling me. To tell me that I wrote about our sex life online and in the Detroit News. Or giggling at me from behind your covered hand. Or leaving stupid comments about getting a vasectomy.
Those posts were NOT about our sex life. You want posts about our sex life then I can direct you into my blog archives.
I did NOT go into graphic detail about anything regarding sex.
I went into graphic detail about a letter my daughter wrote. I spoke of emotions that this event elicited.
It amazes me, as parents, that some of you (nameless faces) couldn’t see past the fact that the word sex was on the screen in front of you.
I felt that this was an important issue to address. I wrote about it my own personal writing style. Which made it more personal instead of clinical or well…bland. And I will continue to write in this fashion.
I write about topics that I find important educational or entertaining. This is just who I am. So love me or leave me. But no matter what, I will always be real. And I will always be honest.
Girl… I’m just glad it was you and not me. I had to explain nipples to my three year old this morning and that was enough for my day….
(Sorry people are acting stupid).
what???
sex
sex
sex
I am waiting on how YOU handle this situation so I can learn….and not live it…
Good for you for standing up for yourself.
Your life, your issues, your blog.
You are absolutely right. It wasn’t graphic or overly revealing. It was a legitimate parenting experience to which you wanted advice.
Sometimes Hubs and I do stuff just to freak out the kids… a little butt grab, some face licking, silly things. Our kids are a bit older than yours so they know we’re goofing around.
(seriously though, some people do need to grow up, or at least read your whole post and not just the ‘dirty’ words ~ not that you use them, mwah!)
well said.
HUH?! Who thought that post was about your sex life? Did they actually READ the post? That’s silly….. I say blow them off. And I don’t mean that sexually. (hehe)
If someone thought that was just about your sex life, then they must only understand Swahili!
It’s the kids – it’s all about the kids!!!!!
As for me – I’m staying too cause I love ya!
Because you know what to do with those kinds of commenters? You have to STICK IT TO THEM and really SCREW with their minds.
sex
sex
sex
nipples
sex
😀
Oh, and of course BLOW THEM off!
(giggle)
oh babe..sorry to hear that.((((hugs)))) to you. Me…I’m sticking around whether you like it or not…mwah!
Now I’ve got no choice but to keep reading to see what was misunderstood.
Daahhhhh! People are…something something. And they can be a whole lot more narrow minded than that too. Don’t tell me they did it under Anonymous!
Heh heh, teachermommy said blow them off…heh heh
Are you kidding me? They obviously didn’t read your post. I love your honesty in addressing such a touchy parental situation.
Seriously? How can anyone not get from your posts that they were all about how to handle the situation?
I loved how you handled it, btw.
Oh Melisa…
I just wanted to say that I’ve been following this in my reader (sorry, I’m a sh*tty commentator of late) but, you did absolutely nothing wrong. I found your last post (terrifyingly) funny AND educational because DAMN, I never thought of that and I’ve taken it for granted that Col and I can have wild, loud sex with our door open whenever we want right NOW….but it’s not always going to be that way…shoot. I loved that post, to be honest.
Some people are finicky. I know this from my own experience over the years, blogging non-fluff.
There are always going to be haters no matter what. And my 2 pieces of advice are this:
1. Action, not reaction.
Oh, I have reacted. It’s a natural thing for women. BUT, I’ve learned the hard way that you don’t react. Some people get off on reaction…they LOVE that they’ve caused a fire in you. They are miserable people. Anyone who goes out of their way to make YOU – the writer and owner of this blog – feel bad about anything you write….is a layer of sh*t on the bottom of your shoe. Find some grass and scrape it off or better yet, give it to your man to take into the public bathroom and clean 😉
Their comments/reactions/posts in retaliation is THEIR problem.
2. Love me or hate me
In the words of Lady Sovereign:
“Love me or hate me, it’s still an obsession
Love me or hate me , that is the question
If you love me then, thank you!
If you hate me then, f*ck you.”
You know what? The fact you rile some people up is IMPRESSIVE. Take it as a compliment!
You so rock sweetie….keep the good, bad and ugly coming! I’m learning from YOU.
I’m sorry some people couldn’t get past the fact that you had the word sex in your blog. I found that particular blog illuminating. I also found it reassuring because the same thing happened to me. I didn’t feel so all alone. I like your writing style.
Well said – shame some of the readers of that post couldn’t be as mature.
What did people say? I seriously never ceased to be amazed by the things people decide it’s OK to say in blog comments or how people can jump to conclusions about posts and completely misinterpret them. Read the words on the screen people.. it’s all right there for you to take in. And if you don’t like what you see, click the little X at the top of your screen and move on. Geez!!
muahahaha teacher mommy said BLOW. AND NIPPLES.
she rules, must check out her blog.
sex.
Who wrote nasty comments? Really, most people who are married have sex…sorry it’s a fact of life and if you’re not, that’s why you are making mean comments…jealousy! I was glad you lived it so hopefully I could learn from it and if I don’t at least I know a good way to address it. Thanks for posting about it and I am glad you posted this too.
WHAAAAAAAAAATTTTTTTTTT? People have sex, sex, sex. And they blog about their lives? WHAT is this world, or blogging world coming to? That’s it, I’ve had enough. No more SEX, SEX, SEX, *coughnipplescough* It’s embarrassing really!!!!!!!
LOL I love you! And I love silly commenters they make for good blog fodder which keeps me coming back to ya!
…and that’s why we love you. Those negative people? They’re not getting any. That’s their problem.
im dissapointed too. i was hoping to hear more details about your sex life.
I’m a few days behind (obvioulsy), but people made a big deal about those posts? Wow, they must not get out a lot.
I think you handled the whole thing extremely well. And boy, do I hope it’s not me having to handle it anytime soon (or ever).