Grind, n. slang a dance movement in which the hips are rotated in a suggestive or erotic matter. Compare to the Bump. As defined on Dictionary.com.
This dance, which has had many different variations throughout time, at every nightclub. Is making it’s way through 13 year old Bar and Bat Mitzvah circuit. Appalling.
Parents…SHAME ON YOU!
You parade your daughters around. Wearing nothing more that child sized adult dresses. Freshly budded cleavage exposed from plunging necklines. Buttocks and genitals barely covered with strips of material masquerading as dresses. Teetering perilously and comically in gorgeous designer shoes with heels way to high for anyone but strippers to walk in normally.
And you send them to functions like this.
You drop them off at the door.
Kiss them goodbye.
And drive away.
Do you realize what these little mini hookers in training are doing?
They’re grinding.
They are PRACTICALLY having sex on the dance floor.
And it’s NOT OK.
I’m not prude. In fact, I’m far from it. I have an adult website. So I am completely aware of what goes on in the world.
But these are kids. Fresh from babyhood.
And they are gyrating provocatively, while sandwiched between two horny 13 year old boys.
This is horrifying.
A parent…a mother…of a boy child who was one of the pieces of bread to the grinding sandwich…told me to get over it. In her defense, she was nice about it. But she told me that this is normal. At EVERY function. All over the country.
Get over it?
No freaking way.
If I found out that my children were behaving inappropriately. And I TOTALLY believe grinding to be inappropriate. I would never let them go to these kinds of events.
It’s so disgusting that parents are allowing this to go on.
Yet, if grinding was being done at school dances…even on the high school level. Chaperones would break it up. And if it continued, these offensive…OFFENDING…students would be removed from the school.
So how is it OK anywhere else?
Recently, due to girls performing oral sex under the tables at these type of parties, new regulation stated that the tablecloths had to be made shorter.
Apparently though, having group sex in a corner of the dance floor, while all the adults…parents…chaperones boogie down while drinking umptuous amounts of alcohol;
now THAT is perfectly acceptable.
Isn’t it?
*major eye roll*
i am shocked.
i would have never even THOUGHT about giving someone a blow job under a table at a dance at the age of 13. i was just excited to go to the movies to kiss in the movie theatre!
how did we get to this point?
even tho’ it wasn’t as bad in your day, you can see why you weren’t allowed to go to unchaperoned parties. we were at a batmitzvah at a country club. the children went off hand and hand to t he dark golf greens. they also did the grind. everyone was appalled, but didn’t say a word.
literally sick to my stomach.
i’m keeping my babies home forever.
WOW! That is insane! I am scared to see what happens my girls are that age! “Get over it?” Obviously that mom is ready to be a grandma by the time her son is 15, better yet does she realize that it will be her not her son that will be supporting that kid until he is out of college?! I am guessing that if you are a mom of a boy you don’t need to worry about such behavior! Give me a break would have been my response! Are you kidding me!?
Although in many ways I am not too shocked, look at the clothes that the little girls have to pick from, belly shirts and short shorts, look at the pictures in the mags and on
TV. Insane and like Heather said “How did we get to this point?’ My question is where do we go from here? Let our kids be kids while they can!
My husband once went on a trip with his church to help the homeless. He was standing there when a little girl (maybe 5 or 7) came up and said… “My mommy taught me how to dance, wanna see” So he said sure, being nice. It took one min for him to tell her that she needed to stop that, and all she was doing was the “bump and grind” I mean, seriously, its like saying, hey im your mom, and if you want to get knocked up before your 15 this is how you do it. Between the hormones are families are exposed to in food, and the natural body chemistry of teen-agers, no wonder there are so many young moms. Since when is showing your daughter its ok to PROVOKE boy/men? Ugh the whole topic ticks me off as much as it looks like it does you.
Wow… I am woefully ignorant. This is stunning. If a parent had told me one of my kids had behaved like that I would have drug them home by their hair and not let them out of the house until they were 30. I total blame parents for not taking control of their kids. Get over it?! I would have been livid.
I can’t believe the things our kids are growing up with as “normal” – such as total sexualization by age 11 or 12. The clothes mentioned above that appear to have been designed by pervs are a huge part of it. . Viagra commercials? Oral sex references constantly even on 8 pm primetime television? It’s got to be totally confusing. As a society we send out such mixed messages. I’m not sure if how I’m handling things is right – we talk about these things a lot at my house because with two teenage daughter, I feel like it’s important to keep the lines of communication completely open – and I have a low tolerance for bs. Both my husband and I are involved/chaperoning, checking on facts and supervision. People may say that I’m “overprotective”, but I know that’s not true.My kids have earned many liberties because they must continue to prove themselves trustworthy. t’s harder to give a rip than not as a parent, and I think a lot of parents just want to stick their head in the sand…. or as your friend said – get over it and say it’s normal.
Wow…
I don’t have kids but I do know of people who are my age that do. I would have never thought to do the oral sex thing at a dance. Totally crazy and I am glad you are making a stand by saying something about it.
The sad thing is with technology today is that all this could wind up on a Youtube video somewhere.
Totally makes me want to raise my boys in a bubble!
Children can not raise themselves. Any two fertile heterosexual adults can make a baby; animals do it all the time. But being an adult human means that if you make a kid, then dammit, you raise that kid. The kids do not ask to be born, but once you bring them into the world, then you have a responsiblity to socialize and raise that child so that it can compete in the real world, and can grow to be a responsible parent.
I think that putting kids into sexual situations before they are mature enough to handle them is horrible. Parents can not be the buddies of their kids, they must be the parents.
We do not teach kids how to become parents, and we allow any two fertile heterosexual creatures to copulate and make babies.
This has to end, or else we will go the same way that Rome did. From the flower of civilization to nothing.
Dad
I know, it’s freaking me out like you wouldn’t believe. I have 2 young daughters myself and I hope and pray that hubby and I are instilling in them the value of self-worth and self-respect. Girls as young as 12 are already giving blow-jobs to boys at “Lipstick” parties (the boys penises are color coded…IT’S SHOCKING.) Also group sex is like the in-thing these days with teenage girls..I’M HYPERVENTILATING. (Yes I keep myself updated on these things…I have to don’t you think?)
Grinding @ 13, huh? Not sure what I’ll do when my boys reach that age, but I know that when I was 13 I went to my 1st dance & had my 1st slow dance w/a boy. I was appalled that my stomach was touching his & I remember trying to suck it in (& it wasn’t even big) the entire time to prevent anything from touching him other than my arms. Can’t imagine my 13 year old self grinding on a boy.
i don’t know why but I am breaking into song…and I am appalled at my behavior…
“she’s dangerous on the dance floor *dangerous*”
Yes! UGH!
Although both genders misbehave at these functions, the wardrobe issue is a girl thing and it makes me sick to see what parents are okay with when their daughter leaves the house (especially when it’s a party celebrating a RELIGIOUS milestone: geez!). I once went to a Bat Mitzvah of a girl whose skirt was so short that when she was on the bima and bowed towards the ark, you could practically see her underwear! Are you kidding me????
People need to stop telling concerned parents to “get over it” (even if they’re nice about it); I’m scared for the problems our world is going to have in about 15 years.
I had no idea it was this bad. I remember my best friend getting her first kiss in the schoolyard at the age of 13 and crying all the way home because she was sure it would ruin her reputation!
BJ’s and grinding at 13? OMG. I have a good friend who is starting to plan her daughter’s Bat Mitzvah in 2 years time, her baby just turned 11. I cannot fathom that this stuff might go on…
This is precisely why my daughters will be allowed to start dating when they are 30.
Well, they’re not doing it were (rural middle school), but I know they’re going at it at the high school. Still, though, it’s not every kid; just those with no self-respect. Really sad.
How absolutely horrifying.
Every day I get closer to locking my kids in a bubble until they graduate college (you know, with Phd’s)
Not. Acceptable.
This is just so sad & scary. My daughter is 15 & I just pray that the values we instilled in her are as important to her as they are to us. I know a lot of girls at the high school, (& I’m sure in the lower grades), dress & try to move so provocatively that it just makes me sick. Parents need to learn that this is not acceptable.
I remember when we were at school dances, we had a teacher who walked around with a 12 inch ruler & made sure that we danced at least that far from each other.
Holy sh*t. Get over it? I don’t THINK so. My daughter is 13, first of all I’ve never seen it happen, and NO parent I know would watch and allow it. Personally I will lock my girls up in a flipping cage before I allow that crap.