eavesdropping and interrupting talking to Anissa briefly on Twitter. She was talking about blog traffic…and quality vs. quantity-type things. And…I told her that I have a lot to say on this. Because of all the blog traffic sites I have signed up for over the last year…
I started blogging 2 years ago. Because really, I was looking for a way to make some money. My sisters sil told me about some blogs that were making a decent income from advertisers. And I thought, without realizing the truth, why the hell not. Sounds easy peasy. As we say on Twitter…#snort.
I started a blog called Such Simple Pleasures (which had to be shut down for reasons I’m not going to get into right now). I figured, I can write. With five kids, there will always be TONS of material to write about. So hello. Let’s do it *cue in Ton Loc*
I did a little bit of research. Ended up hanging out on BlogCatalog and Cre8buzz. And within a month or so, I was getting a large volume of traffic.
Comment love was lavished upon me.
It was only a matter of time before the money would start rolling in…hopefully. Fingers crossed.
I was a blogger on the rise.
A rise to what, I dunno. But…whatever.
Then. My rise came to a screeching halt.
Crashed. Burned. Thanks to family trolls.
I closed shop.
And here I ran.
Rocking and Drooling. A few weeks later. .
I did more research this time.
I took it slower.
I was very protective of Rock and Drool.
I had to be.
Then, I completed the sign ups for StumbleUpon, Technorati, Digg…and various other sites like these. Because I hadn’t REALLY done them before.
I put the entrecard calling card on my blog. And I even dropped on occasion.
I signed up for SITgirls…which, I happen to really love.
I started a new facebook account, just so I could list my blog without worrying about people finding it that I didn’t want finding it.
I did everything I could. To ensure traffic.
I WANTED NUMBERS.
I put my blog out there. Desperately. Despairingly.
I wanted to look on sitemeter. I wanted to look on Google Analytics. And feedburner. And watch my numbers rise. It was kind of a turn on.
Because, if my numbers rose. My chance of sponsorship would rise.
Because, if my hits rose. My blog might have a chance of pulling itself out of obscurity. And it might finally get noticed. The way Such Simple Pleasures was starting to get noticed.
Because, you know what, it should?! Right?! Shouldn’t we all have our moment of bloggy glory? And shouldn’t we all make money doing something we obsessively adore?
I realized something.
All those sites. The Technorati. The StumbleUpon. The Entrecard. Condron.
All of them.
Were only good for one thing.
Just faceless people with blogs. Who were looking for the same thing I was.
And I wanted more than that.
I wanted the comradery.
I wanted COMMENTS. Because yes, I’m a self proclaimed comment whore. I dare one of you to tell me you aren’t.
I wanted the quality. NOT the quantity. Along with comments 🙂
I started equating blogging to friendships. Well, my kind of friendships.
When I was younger, I thought the more, the merrier.
But now, as an adult…
I have a few really close and dear friends.
And I realized, that is what I wanted from my blog.
Close. And dear.
Not as much.
I still welcome them.
But I want them to come back. Because they like what they see.
If they don’t. *shrugs shoulders*
So I stopped doing all of those “other” things.
And I started hanging out at Twitter, mostly.
And doing my SITS roll call.
Because THAT is where the quality hang out.
And occasionally, I check out my reviews and my favorites on Link Referral, when I remember about that place.
The one place you love to hate and hate to love.
Is where the quality is.
And I stopped worrying so much about how many.
And although I would still like to get paid to blog…because really, how cool would that be!?
I stopped worrying about making an income from my blog.
And I began worrying more about my writing.
And my creativity.
And keeping it fresh. And real.
Is what really matters.
Because it shows.
Is how you KEEP quality bloggy friends.
Versus the quantity of faceless bloggers who pass through without ever saying hello. Without ever coming back.
Isn’t THAT what *this* is about?