My ex-husband is thousands and thousands of dollars in arrearage. He doesn’t think he should have to help to support his children…at least, not willingly.
Every month, we go to court to be seen in front of Friend of the Court.
And every month, the day before our hearing…he pays the bare minimum to keep himself out of trouble.
And every month…he usually just gets a warning that he needs to keep up with the support. Because…if he doesn’t…it’s a trip back to Friend of the Court.
He hadn’t paid support since August. Not. A. Penny. And not an ounce of guilt about it, either.
So we were scheduled to be seen in front of the Friend of the Court at 10:30am.
My ex called me this morning. He wanted to let me know that he paid a little bit…last night…and, could I please call off this hearing.
I said…NOPE. Because I’m sick of this. Done with it. Done with him!!
So…he called there himself. And they told him…too bad. We still are going to be seen in front of the referee!! YAY!!
I grabbed my attorney/sister. Off we went.
After sitting in the SUPER SMELLY court room for a little while and hearing about these SUPER SMELLY people owing TONS of child support…we were called to the podium for our case to be heard…
Where the referee let my ex know that…despite his insistence…there was NO record of ANY payment being made…since last summer.
And…despite my ex’s insistence that he has the confirmation number of the payment…the referee shut him up by saying…NOTHING IS IN THE COMPUTER…which is equal to it not really happening.
So…my ex was given a choice…
To come up with a SIGNIFICANT amount of money…in cash…and bring it to the court tomorrow morning…in front of THE JUDGE!!! Or…go to jail for 30 days!
Because, it appears that the referee is just as sick of hearing about my ex trying to fund this ethanol plant…as I am!!! And claiming that he has no money until this plant funds. So therefore, if the plant hasn’t funded yet…leaving him with no money…how can he pay child support?
My ex claims that he’ll have the money today…in cash…
Which leaves me wondering…
How is it that he can come up with, between the alleged payment from yesterday…which I am convinced he made…plus this significant amount that he has to come up with by tomorrow morning…
Yet…he NEVER willingly pays the monthly amount…
Which would eliminate us having to go through this process…
EVERY FREAKING MONTH!
I’m so curious to see what happens tomorrow.
The only sad thing is…if he doesn’t come up with the money…and ends up having to spend 30 days in jail…
how am I going to explain his absence to my children?
You are so much stronger women than I. I would never be able to keep myself together for any of that. Hope it turns out well for the kids’ sake!
Anglophile Football Fanatic says
Oh, my. I’m glad the judge is finally raking him over the coals. He sounds like such a class act. Worry about telling the kids when the need arises.
Lisa B says
this is very disheartening to read. I suggest you read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle . You could use a fresh perspective and some enlightening and joyful moments.
Tara R. says
Wow! What an interesting development. I hope he comes up with the cash, if only for the kids’ sake. Good luck.
the planet of janet says
go get ’em, tiger.
exes who play at deadbeat dad tick. me. off.
i know. i have one.
dysfunctional mom says
Ugh, I hate that you are in that position. My ex has been arrested twice, but miraculously came up with the money immediately and got bailed out within hours. @@
I hope he just pays you…hello Christmas shopping!!
I’m sorry you have to go through this each month. I hope it all works out where he gets caught up with what he owes you.
Half-Past KIssin' Time says
I guess he’s just a slow learner. Tell me again what attracted you to this guy? 🙂
Glad it all turned out well, but wouldn’t it be easier for him to pay every month?