I’ve been listening to my friends. I’ve been eavesdropping on people in restaurants and stores. I’ve been talking with my sister.
Everyone is talking about sex.
How much…or little.
Toys…or not.
Orgasm…or not.
It goes on and on. And quite frankly…no one seems very satisfied. THAT is distressing.
So, I’m curious. I know all about my real life, talk to face to face friends…and even some strangers who don’t know I’m listening! But, I want to know about my dear blog friends.
I’ll tell you about me first…fair?
I love sex. I NEVER get sick of it. Even when we fall into a routine…which does happen. I’m just happy to be getting some 🙂 And, I really believe I’m very lucky because…it’s very satisfying…and I’m not just saying that in case he reads this!!!
We have set nights that we know will be our sex nights. I won’t tell you which nights, kay?! While it’s only twice a week…that’s fine. Because…it’s good. I can honestly say…I’m having the best sex of my adult life and it’s with my stupid ass husband…who would have thought!!
So…tell me…
Are you happy with your sex life? Do you feel comfortable talking to your spouse and telling him/her what you need? Are you satisfied with the frequency or infrequency? Do you use toys? Do you fantasize?
I’m just really interested because I feel like there are waaaaaaaay too many of my friends that are miserable in the physical part of their marriage…
What about you?
I too am like you. I love sex, can’t get enough. If we don’t have sex at least twice a week I am a major bitch. I don’t orgasm every time, but I never walk away feeling like what a waste of time, energy whatever. There you have it!
I’m not unhappy with it. I think we could be doing it more if we weren’t so friggin’ exhausted! We definitely enjoy ourselves and walk away…or crawl away satisfied.
No, I am not happy with it. I tell my husband what I want, and its good, but then the next week – same story. I try to initate sometimes, but I dont want to be the one doing all the work all of the time… sometimes I just want him to grab my and just do me… I dont understand
I haven’t had sex in months. When I was having it, it wasn’t great. But it was better than nothing!
My hubby would definitely say we don’t have sex enough. He would love to have sex every day (or twice a day), but ugh. Who has the energy for that? Not me. We have sex maybe once or twice a week. And I’m okay with that.
I go through phases. Sometimes I want it alot. That will last for a week or two. Maybe even three. Then I’ll go through a long spell of, frankly, just not caring. My boyfriend would take it every day and night if he could get it. I wish I wanted to give it to him that much, but frankly it’s just not all that most of the time. He’s got some skills better than others.
He’s been with a handful of girls (7 to be exact – which includes me) and only one of those lovely ladies (guess which) was longer than a few weeks. I, on the other hand, have been with, well, technically 2 guys. My BF and then one dude in HS, once. Yes, one time. It was a regret, unfortunately. So I guess it’s safe to say that perhaps neither of us really have a clue.
yeah. um. (whispering) are we alone? So, I married a younger man. You know, wild, crazy, ready anytime sex machine. who wanted loads of children. So now, I have the younger guy, the loads of children and I’m so freakin exhausted I want to cry every time he looks at me. Is that enough information for you?
And funny thing is, I was just thinking of you the other day because you’ve mentioned before how you’re thrilled to be getting it, and I was wondering if I’m the only one that would really rather have a good nap. Shhhh!
We don’t have set nights, but probably should. Things are great and I am always completely satisfied. I have to mirror your sentiments, really.
Are you happy with your sex life? Yes.
Do you feel comfortable talking to your spouse and telling him/her what you need? Always.
Are you satisfied with the frequency or infrequency? Sometimes. Once, twice a week is good. Never usually happens at night though…
Do you use toys? Never have. Not closed to the idea though.
Do you fantasize? Do I have to answer that one? Maybe. Very occasionally.
Erm…
Well…yes and no. I don’t NEED sex often. I like it…IF it’s good and if I’m in a “happy place” (i.e. not when we’re fighting)…
and as you know…it’s kinda been rocky…for uhm… a while.
Other than that, it’s pretty decent. I have a feeling it’ll only get better as shit gets straightened out. I’m hoping anyways.
My only issue is with the frequency…I’d love to have MORE of it but it’s hard with my crazy schedule and just normal life things.
Last weekend in the tent was fun though….;o)
Do I love it? Oh my… yes. Even with the hubby! 😉 (kidding… he’s pretty amazing, actually…. and its an awesome thing I still think that after 16 years together!)
Our schedules are so crazy, between both of us working and the constant sports things with our boys, that it obviously doesn’t happen nearly often enough. But we’ve decided that’s what weekends are for! We cram a week’s worth into those two days.
There may or may not be awesome communication including fantasies, role playing, and just good ole’ down and dirty sex. There may or may not be toys involved. 😉 But its a pretty good guess that things generally lead more towards the “may be” end of things. 😉
My husband is diabetic. I am tired. It doesn’t happen often. And, we’re both okay with that.
i’m good with once or twice a week. my husband? would like more.
but in order for that to happen, he has to be willing to stay up. considering he counts backwards from wake-up time to figure out what time he needs to go to bed for his necessary 8 hours…. not likely to happen 🙂
Well since hubby is away most of the time I don’t get it near as much I would like. But when he is home, of course he’s built it all up so I get it more than enough! And I am extremely satisfied. And he LOVES to talk about it ALL the time. We’ve tried toys and the such. And fantasizubg is something that I just do, can’t help it sometimes!!!
ummm…..I am not totally satisfied…wish it were more often …..but we all get so busy and I go through my phases….we should probably set a a couple nights a week aside but we don’t……but I do feel better when we have it….helps on many different levels…..
Like rabbits we are. If we can both manage to stay away long enough for both kids to be asleep, there we are. This is rarely more than twice a week, and sometimes we’ll go without for a week or so, if somebody is sick and we’re all more exhausted than usual. Lately he’s been working a lot because of some staff turnover, but the new people start this week so i’m hoping he can start coming home for dinner again. I think I told you we’ve talked about toys, but just haven’t figured out how to cart 2 kids into the shop without getting reported to social services. Not to mention answering a bunch of questions (from the kids). Since we met when I was 34 and he was 31, we both were, uh, how shall I put this, experienced. Granted, most of mine were not good, and many bordered on the horrendous, but I thank my lucky stars for all his former girlfriends who taught him what he needed to know.