I sit here, fingers propped on keyboard, looking overwhelmingly around the new place. I don’t get wordpress. Blogger was pretty easy to figure out for computer illiterate tards, such as myself!
It’s funny. I was SO set on starting a new blog. To the point where, I came downstairs at 4 in the morning to see if any of the names I was thinking of were taken. None of them were! A sign, surely.
And…yet, here I sit. With so much to say. Yet…nothing. I want to talk about the events that led to having to close down Such Simple Pleasures. But, it could take all day. And…it doesn’t truly matter, anymore. The long short…husbands family found out about it…and I was writing a bit about them, especially back in the beginning. They read it…I found out from statcounter. And…they began to dislike me more than they already did. That’s it. In a nutshell. And once I knew that the ENTIRE family had my blog address…I began to not post as much…as some of you already know. And…I couldn’t have THAT!! Nope. To be psychologically bullied off my blog! Horrendous. But, I let it happen. NO MORE!
I got an email from my mother, asking for the new address. I’m in a quandary as to whether or not I even want my own family reading this. It might be fun to be able to talk about them, too!
Do you remember the feeling of starting your first blog? Of constantly checking to see if anyone other than your family had commented? I’ve got that going on, again.
So…my question…how far do you go, on your blog? Especially when you know that family isn’t reading? Do you push the limits? Talk about major taboo issues? What subject matter do you ABSOLUTELY, under NO CIRCUMSTANCES, talk about on your blog? I’m trying to decide how far I want to go here. My boundaries seem somewhat limitless. I think…I might need someone to set some limitations for me!! 😉 Because…I can have a big, blabbering mouth, at times!
I wish I talked about more on my blog. I leave a lot of things out. I do not discuss our sex life. PArtially because I just don’t. It’s no one’s business. Partially because my mom reads the blog. I haven’t touched that much on too many family issues. I’ve stayed pretty tame. I’ve even avoided certain friend issues because I have neighbors who suck and who read the blog and give me all sorts of shit when I mention it. I don’t like feeling censored but I’ve allowed and I don’t know a)how to not allow it (I guess I could just go balls to the wall) b)if it’s necessary to stop it.
I understand your “concern” with sharing your address and I’ve considered a few times starting a new blog elsewhere. But like you, wordpress is just too damned hard to figure out! 🙂
Karen MEG (Pomtini) says
I started my blog when I was in a murky cloud of nursing and adjusting to being SAHM. It’s morphed into this space that others, other than just my SIL and a couple of friends in the US read to keep up. And I love that aspect of it. That other people care to read, and are interested in what I have to say.
I’ve just recently (as in yesterday) started blogging about a very personal issue. I haven’t even told my husband yet, but I’ll likely find out about it soon. We haven’t been hiding it, but at the same time it’s not like we advertise our experiences. I’m grappling a bit as to whether this might affect my kids in future… not that they should be ashamed or anything. It is something that affects millions of couples in the world, and I don’t think it should be thought of negatively.
Big issues, eh ;)?!
Some days I think about starting a secret blog under a secret name. I think about that a lot.
If I feel like talking about it I do. It’s my blog and that’s how I look at it. Glad to be over here now. I missed your writings so I say go for it!
Tara R. says
If I knew that absolutely no one I knew read my blog, I would be stoopid about how much I talked about. It would be so liberating. I actually have a secret blog, nothing on it, but it’s there just in case. Set to private right now, but one day, one day….
Mr Lady says
DON’T GIVE OUT THE ADDRESS. Are you mad, woman? 😉
Give Wp one week. You’ll never look back. If you need help, lemme know.
Mel, I think having this blog set to private is a great idea, and only allowing those you choose and that you know to read what you have to say. Be watchful though since family members may try to get a bit sneaky in an effort to try and find out the url from you, sending you an email after creating a fake username etc to get the url and pretend to be someone else until…..
You could also create for yourself some fake names to use in the personal stories to write, to help protect the privacy of those family members that tick you off 🙂
I sometimes write posts that include situations and problems with family members (in-laws argh!), but I write it in such a way that it’s extremely generic and no one would dream I was writing a personalized post.
I say let it all hang out! LOL But on the other hand I understand not wanting to as to protect (for lack of a better term) situations and people. I for one tried to do that and my sister decided to take it upon herself and air out my dirty laundry. But oddly enough, I got no negative feedback, and all I can say is its my life to live not my life for others to judge. I wish I could offer some truly inspirational words to help you make your decision but the only thing I can offer is what I have learned recently is the best thing to do, when you don’t what to do, do nothing, the answer will eventually come to you. I love reading your blogs, most mom blogs as a matter of fact. Because I have yet to come across one that portrays that “Leave It To Beaver” life and total perfection. It’s awesome that we are all human, that our kids and families drive us nuts most of the time, that we need a good glass or shot of alcohol and a ladies night out!
the planet of janet says
i would never ever ever give out my blog address to family. my husband reads it, but that. is. it.
not even my bff knows that i blog.
i like it that way becuz it gives me the freedom to say what i need/want to say. what’s off limits? um. not much. i’ve discussed ASPECTS of my sex life, but not specifics. i guess that’s where i draw the line.
In january, I started a new blog on blogger, but set it to private. I do not allow family members to read it. It is there that I vent about my weight, my family, hubby’s family, and I was totally surprised at the number of blog friends who wanted to read it. It is there that I can be totally honest, and not have to worry about “someone” seeing it. I have control over who sees it. My MIL asked a few days ago for access, and I told her no.
So that’s what I did, and it works for me. I hope you can find what works for you.
Don’t give her the address, then you’ll end up being worried all the time about what you’re writing and how it might affect her!
My writings are pretty tame cause my parents read it, and my in-laws know about it, although I’m not sure how much of it they actually read. Oh how I would love to be able to bitch and vent… I may start a private blog… if things get to the point that I just HAVE to have some sort of outlet then it’ll be a private blog on blogger me thinks!
About family: I am so with you, I have had to be careful myself about
certain issues about family, etc. you don’t know who’s lurking. I’d rather say nothing, and not stir up trouble. There’s no point to bring it up, when things have never changed from the beginning.
I have given myself room to move on in a more positive direction.
I don’t want to leave my bloggies, there’s too many GOOD things I enjoy about blogging, finally an outlet for things I really enjoy including great people. 🙂
I don’t talk negatively about family members or friends…I hate having to apologize for shit!!! I never post other people’s photos, just my immediate family. I know that some of my family reads my blog and my son’s birthfamily also reads it…which is great, it is just another way to stay in touch.
I found you! Haha! Saw your address on imbeingheldhostage. Is that okay?
I wish my hubby hadn’t given out my address to my MIL. I love her, but there are just some things I feel I can’t write about now. Sometimes I even wish hubby and my friends didn’t know about my blog. I’d like a place to vent completely worry-free.
If I were you I would tell your mom you’ve decided to give up blogging for now. If you feel like giving it to her later then you can.
Nice new digs!
Grey Street says
OMG – well, trust me, I know where you are right now. I’ve contemplated starting a new blog because my current and ex-friends know about my blog and unfortunately for them, I’m damn honest. Some don’t like it and I’ve heard it loud and clear from them. I just don’t want to have to feel like I’m running, but then again, I’d like to be able to say whatever I want. SO for now I’m still where I’m at.
I’m glad you’re still blogging though – no matter where it is!! 🙂
Howdy! Sorry I haven’t visited in a LOOOOOOOOONG time. Sad to hear you closed Such Simple Pleasures down, but glad to see you here (found the link from Kathleenybeany’s site).
RE: the feeling of starting your first blog–yeah, I totally remember that…except my family was (were?) the *last* people I wanted reading it. There are lots of things I don’t discuss on my blog because I don’t know who from work/family/whatever read it. Besides if I went full disclosure on my blog well then, there wouldn’t be any mystery would there???
dysfunctional mom says
The only “real life” people who know about my blog are my BFF and my niece, who is also a close friend. And my hubby knows about it but doesn’t read it, although I tell him about blog stuff a lot. BUT, I’m almost positive that my ex’s current wife found my blog somehow and is reading, which really pisses me off because I find myself not saying certain things because I know that beeotch is reading. Ugh!!
I write about whatever I want. I generally wait a day or so if I’m really pissed off at family (which doesn’t happen much…unless it’s at Steven…and he doesn’t count). So, if after that day of waiting and I’m still furious…I’ll blog it.
You know, this could so totally work in your favor. If your family thinks they’ll get blogged about for being idiots and asses, maybe they’ll be less of those things? Just be sure to slather it on thick when they are super nice…bwahahahaah.
I think my family kind of expects me to freak out here and there and post something about them. They used to ask if certain things were about them. Now, not so much. Now, I use names. Hahahaha.
I’d say don’t give it to your Mom, but so she won’t feel bad just tell her it’s so your in-laws can’t weasel it out of her. I don’t know exactly how that private thing works, but you could always do the password protected thing as well. I think there’s a way to look up IP addresses if you get a request from someone you aren’t sure of. You can compare the IP address to those of your evil in-laws. Even if they make up new names and emails, the IP addresses are the same if they’re using their computers.
I mainly started mine to record my children’s childhood and throw out random thoughts. I gave the address to my inlaws, but not my own family. This was partly because the Mountain Man has a sister with a blog, and a brother-in-law (different sister’s husband) with a blog. My husband reads mine, but never comments. I am the black sheep of my family, so it’s just as well that some of the things on my blog aren’t read by them. Especially some of the drafts I’ve written that are waiting to be posted. I’m beginning to regret giving it to the one brother-in-law because he’s been making rude comments lately. The Mountain Man has offered to de-lurk and respond to his comments if I want him to. The wife of this guy got all paranoid on me around Christmas and said I was sharing too much information. We live in a small town and if anyone from here read my blog, they’d immediately know who I was. She made me feel really bad about blogging there for awhile. That’s when I obscured our location and made up names for hubby and kids, and I went by Countess for awhile, but that got old, so I went back to Janet. Well, that may be more than you wanted to know.
Sexy Housewife says
Hmm, hmm, hmm…I started my blog anonymously and didn’t tell anyone. I wanted to try it out and see if it was for me. I didn’t write about family stuff too much becasue I didn’t know where I was going with it. I did eventually tell the hubby and he is my most loyal fan. He hasn’t told anyone and I haven’t told anyone else. This is an exclusive club for all my bloggy friends!
I used to write about everyone and everything. I used to post pictures. I used to have a who cares attitude. Then, my hubs family found us and there was a huge explosion. They no longer speak to us BECAUSE OF MY BLOG. Then, co-workers found me, ugh! Then, I started getting hate mail. I totally shut down and almost gave up. But, I refused to be bullied. I took off pics, changed names, but ultimately, I’m soildering on. I’ve been where you are baby, it ain’t pretty when the in-laws roll into blog town. Let’s hope they stay away from here.
Yes, I know what it’s like waiting for the comments to roll in, checking the stat counter etc… and here I was, the biggest dork ever wondering why you hadn’t posted after your first post. I checked again and again, everyday. I emailed you. You think you’re computer illiterate? I BOOKMARKED your POST, not your blog. Now I have some catching up to do and some comments to leave. Sorry for the lack of support– I don’t suck, I’m just an idiot some days…
I’m limited on what I blog because like a dummy, I let my Hubby have the address 🙁
Ya know, it’s funny. I’ve been thinking of moving to WordPress simply for the option of password protected posts. My mother reads my blog and because of that I can’t talk shit about her.
No seriously…I HATE that she reads my blog and I would like the option to shield posts from her prying eyes.
If no one I knew IRL knew about my blog I’d go off. Totally taboo subjects. Alas, that is not the case.
So, you don’t like WordPress then??